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To not want to spend any part of Xmas with my dh family

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Nancy10 · 21/12/2009 23:00

My husbands family all live locally. I get on with them if I see them individually but not all together. To be honest I feel a bit of an outcast where his family are concerned.
This is because his mother, sisters and a cousin and aunt are so clicky and thay are the people we see most of!!! They'll start a conversation and then decide not to carry it on because 'they're not sure that they should be telling everyone' (thats not wanting to share anything with me.) They organise stuff such as meals out and exclude us, even though we're sitting there. I've tried to be really sociable, last year I took it upon myself to organise a xmas meal out for us all, but this year due to one of them separating from their partner I decided not to as thought it might be a bit insensitive as it would mean excluding the ex who remains good friends with my dh cousin (and she'd be upset as they finished very recently.) But found out last week, that they've organised a meal together at our local, not mentioned anything to us! Then the cheek of it is, is on xmas day the mother and sister inlaws are coming round in the afternoon and have invited the cousin over too. Without asking me, just presuming I won't mind. I'm already starting to feel my blood boil and xmas hasn't even started yet. Am I being a miserable cow or do they just take the piss!

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nannynobnobs · 21/12/2009 23:01

Invite them round and poison them all. Peace at last!

MillyR · 21/12/2009 23:02

Don't go then. I haven't seen my inlaws at Christmas in years. I have no idea what the original cause was, but I am quite happy to not rediscover it.

Nancy10 · 21/12/2009 23:05

Trouble is I can't avoid them altogether, because we live in the same village. If they lived further away I wouldn't know what they get up to. Might go with the poison option! lol!

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nannynobnobs · 22/12/2009 10:46

Just try and avoid interacting with them as much as you can. If you see them be pleasant but if they are that cliquey, leave them to it!
Or theres the poison of course.

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