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AIBU?

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Original poster

to not want to risk our lifes to get to work tomorrow?

26 replies

lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 21/12/2009 22:34

I am meant to be working tomorrow, but in whole the centre is shut but im meant to cover one community coffee morning and have one visit to a family i could do last week as i was away.
My work is 15miles away and if i go in I have to drop DH off at his office, drop DDs at my mums and then go into work. Now DH doesnt work far from me and our trip home normally takes 20mins, it took him over an hour tonight.
It hasnt stopped snowing here since thursday and its still snowing. I really dont want to risk going but AIBU? Should I just go in and risk sending hours stuck in the car with 2 little girls?

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mulledfruitshootandcheese · 21/12/2009 22:38

I wouldn't go TBH
DH is on nights this week. It just took him an hour and a half to do a 40 min journey. I am already worrying about him driving home tomorrow morning when he has been up all night and it is icy.

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 21/12/2009 22:40

my car has already gone wrong this week I dont want to go!!

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Quattrocento · 21/12/2009 22:41

Feeble excuse

I'd like to stay in bed work from home tomorrow as well

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 21/12/2009 22:45
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daisy5678 · 21/12/2009 22:52

Don't go!

Finona · 21/12/2009 22:53

If you don't feel safe driving, don't go. You don't win prizes for crashing in the snow/ice. Cancel the coffee morning - just not sure why you have to visit the family? If it's a family that has to be seen (i.e. child protection?) make sure that you contact someone senior, explain your situation and make sure that someone knows that visit has to be made. Otherwise, don't chance it! I set off for DS's school today, got half way, skidded, turned back and spent the day at home.

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 21/12/2009 23:01

i dont have to visit just that i had made an appointment with them is all, not CP or anything, and coffee morning is in the health visitors clinic so if im not there, not a lot happens. Only me and boss in tomorrow, and paper work wise I can collect next week and do it at home.
Oh and centre had power cut today too

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lisad123wantsherquoteinDM · 21/12/2009 23:01

I think if it was me alone i wouldnt be so worried, but with my kids in car im not so sure goodness me im a whimp

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mulledfruitshootandcheese · 21/12/2009 23:11

I volunteered a week or so ago to be the driver for Dh's works party which was last night. How I regretted that by Saturday evening! However I got them all there and back albeit very slowly!

Finona · 21/12/2009 23:13

You're not a wimp. I live in NE scotland and we get heavy snow every year. My bosses have always been quite clear that if you can't get to work, you can't get to work. In 8 years I have had about 2 days when I've left work early due to worries about drifting snow (live in a rural area) and 2 days last winter when the main road between my home and work was blocked due to snow and fallen trees. I have work on Wed and Thur this week, and on Wed have to take both DC to MIL 20 miles away. I'm worried already, and if I can't go, I won't. As long as your work's covered, don't risk your kids {smile]

expatinscotland · 21/12/2009 23:15

ring in and say you've got a stomach bug - vomitting and diarrhea.

that way it won't register that you don't sound ill.

either that or say you've got a gushing period and you're losing loads of blood.

Weegle · 21/12/2009 23:21

Normally I would think you're being wimpy but... in this instance YANBU. It's taken my neighbours 4 hours to do a 30 min commute this evening - apparently there are cars and lorries abandoned all over the place. Some other friends from about 6 doors down have abandoned trying to get home tonight and have booked in to a pub - after 5 hours on the road.

DH is still adamant he will be trying to get in to work tomorrow. I think he is mad. I am due a planned c-section on Wed - have to be at the hospital which is normally 40 min away by 7.30 in the morning - am frankly bricking it without DH having a) crashed the car or b) being stranded somewhere other than here

Ponders · 21/12/2009 23:23

You are being v sensible, lisa - with weather like this if it's not absolutely essential it's better all round not to go.

You are not skiving. Stay home, & do it all when the roads are safer.

Finona · 21/12/2009 23:27

oops see the deliberate mistake

Pixel · 21/12/2009 23:44

I wish dh's boss was so understanding Finona. He had to stay at home on friday because there were no buses or trains and he doesn't drive (even if we could have got the car out, we are in a close at the top of a steep hill). He works on the other side of the city so walking definitely not an option, not sure how far but a half hour drive over the by-pass on a good day if I go in the car, and two buses for him.

Today he went to work, still no buses so he had a long walk down a steep hill in the pitch dark on sheets of ice, on a road with no pavements to get to somewhere where he could get a bus.

Did he get any thanks? No he was hauled into the office and told that he would be losing a day's holiday and that he couldn't lose a day's pay instead. He has had time off for doc's appointments lately (not allowed to go in firm's time, he is diabetic) so only had enough days saved for a week's camping with me and the kids next spring.

Sorry for rant/hijack but I'm still so

islandofsodor · 21/12/2009 23:45

I wouldn;t go in.

My friend is an ambulance driver and spent 3 hours digging herself out of snow today but she still thinks she may not make it tomorrow.

thedollshouse · 21/12/2009 23:48

Well dh left the office at 4 and still isn't home yet. Tomorrow is supposed to be his last day in before christmas, I have told him that he is not allowed to go to work tomorrow but he thinks he will be going in, how he is going to manage that when he hasn't even managed to get home yet is beyond me.

echt · 22/12/2009 07:17

YANBU - don't go in. Entirely unreasonable. You're not a wimp. Take acre of yourswelf and your DCs.

I'm glad to see all the sympathetic posts, and look forward to a similar response when schools and nurseries are closed because teachers can't get in.

echt · 22/12/2009 07:19

Jesus! "care" and "yourself"!!

Meglet · 22/12/2009 07:45

Yanbu. If you won't be in big trouble then stay at home. The roads will be nasty today. My boss is letting me work from my local office today (instead of a 20 mile motorway commute) so I'll be on foot, not in the car. You couldn't pay me to drive in this, I'm in north hampshire and the emergency services / breakdown services will be run off their feet.

sarah293 · 22/12/2009 08:10

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AliBellandthe40jingles · 22/12/2009 08:16

I've just come back from driving DH into Basingstoke to get the train. It was one of the scariest things I've ever done.

He has a second interview this morning for a job he really wants, otherwise we would have stayed at home.

YANBU

Morloth · 22/12/2009 12:31

If you are not up to driving in the conditions then you will be doing everyone a favour by staying off the roads IMO. It is a PITA to be sure, but it isn't just you who could get hurt if you lose control of your vehicle.

If you have the option, stay put.

jellybeans · 22/12/2009 12:35

YANBU - don't go.

gorgeousgirl · 22/12/2009 13:42

Echt

I'm sure I remember the threads form February... they weren't sympathetic then

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