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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to have felt a bit hurt by this?

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Servalan · 21/12/2009 22:04

Last week, DD and I made some gingerbread men and biscuits for the staff at her playgroup as a Christmas present. We spent lots of time on them, piped decorations on them etc etc and they were prepared with love and care.

Gave them the present last week on the last day of term. They didn't have a chance to unwrap it while we were there but said they would do so when everyone had left for the day.

Today, the playgroup held a Christmas Party and I went along with DD. In the entrance hall, there were a couple of stalls with stuff like tombola/mince pies and the like - and they were selling the gingerbread men/biscuits that DD and I had made them as a present .

I mentioned it to one of the playgroup members of staff who said that they had "eaten loads" and these were just the biscuits left over. For the present, we gave them 10 gingerbread men and 10 gingerbread star biscuits (I thought that would allow everyone 2 or 3 each that they could take home etc). The party had been going on over an hour before we got there, and there were at least 8 biscuits on the stall and evidence of others having been sold/eaten, so I'm not really buying what she said.

If I hadn't commented to someone, I don't think anyone would have said anything to us about it or shown any appreciation of the time that DD spent with me making them.

I know they didn't ask for a present, and it is up to someone to do what they like with a present once they have received it, but surely selling it in front of the person who gave it to you in the first place is a bit rude?

Or perhaps I'm just being a bit pathetic?!!

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lolapoppins · 21/12/2009 22:06

Oh, that's really awful! A gift is a gift. They shouldn't have put them out on a stall, YANBU to feel hurt, I would too.

fattybumbum · 21/12/2009 22:09

That would hurt me too. Next year scoff them yourself!

ineedalifelaundry · 21/12/2009 22:09

Yanbu. I would have been pissed off about that too.

OTOH Isuppose you could kind of look at it as a sort of compliment- your baking was good enough for people to want to pay money for it? [clutching at straws emoticon]

Drooper · 21/12/2009 22:10

YANBU

Quite insensitive and rude of them really.

You did a nice thing for them and they were ignorant.

Don't let it get you down though!

Happy Christmas

scottishmummy · 21/12/2009 22:12

you are both sweeties doing a home made biccies yes it is kind of icky they sell them

LetThereBeRock · 21/12/2009 22:12

YANBU

awastingamanger · 21/12/2009 22:12

YANBU, that's so thoughtless of them.

RainRainGoAway · 21/12/2009 22:13

YANBU.
But then, I wouldn't give a gift like that as the idea it wouldn't get eaten would be just a bit gutting. Sorry for their insensitivity to you.

nannynobnobs · 21/12/2009 22:16

Wow, I'd be really offended and hurt! YANBU at all. That's so rude of them, and to lie and say 'we've eaten loads' too. Selling the homemade present! Jeez.

ItsAllaBitNoisy · 21/12/2009 22:17

They probably got tonnes of them to be fair, and sold what was left.

I personally wouldn't dream of eating anything made with the assistance of a toddler .

I wouldn't take it personally.

Gumps · 21/12/2009 22:17

YANBU
That is a really nasty thing to do.

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Servalan · 21/12/2009 22:50

Thanks folks. Am glad to know that I'm not being totally unreasonable.

I'm just glad that DD is too young to have taken what happened in the way that I did.

At least it's taught me an important lesson, i.e. not to effing bother to do anything nice in the future

Won't be the last time we bake gingerbread men for ourselves though - DD loves them (as do I )

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scottishmummy · 21/12/2009 22:53

remember its nice to be nice.so bake on

StayingSantasGirl · 21/12/2009 23:01

My friend once went back into our dses Year 1 classroom to fetch something her ds had forgotten, only to see the homemade card he'd made for his teacher, in the bin.

You are not being unreasonable to be upset by this - it was very rude behaviour on their part, and ungrateful too. I hope Father Christmas just brings them coal.

GrendelsMum · 21/12/2009 23:16

Well, in our village, that's the ultimate compliment - cakes good enough to go on the stall to be sold = top quality. Second quality baked goods are served with coffee at the village fete, third quality are served with mulled wine at the carol singing in the dark, so no-one can see them, fourth quality are immediately bought and taken home by the organisers so no-one will see them.

I think it was a lovely idea of yours, but that they probably got quite a few baked things, and you can really only eat a couple of pies and biscuits each, so they probably chose yours as they knew they'd sell.

dilemma456 · 21/12/2009 23:20

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Servalan · 21/12/2009 23:39

Thanks, you are all lovely. It's made me feel much better posting on here and reading your comments

StayingSantasGirl, can't believe a teacher throwing a child's homemade card in the bin! I used to teach years ago and I still treasure all the little cards etc that were made for me!

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