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To Be FURIOUS With My Husband?!

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midori1999 · 21/12/2009 17:52

I am SO angry... I'll try not to rant on too much...

A while ago, the airing cupboard was a total mess, so I spent a day sorting everything out in there and ironing it all ready to be put away. Ran out of time, so just put it all ironed back in there. Que hubby looking in there for something and totally messing it up again, leaving all the clothes in there in a huge pile...

I told hubby that I felt as he had 'untidied' the airing cupboard after I had made the effort to sort it, he should tidy it all up again. He chose to do it the day we got back from two weeks holiday, when none of the 'normal' housework had been done, and there were wood shavings that friend who had kindly been looking after my animals while we were away had traipsed all over the upstairs hall floor. (animals are in a spare bedroom, ther are lots of them!). Hubby just emptied the airing cupboard all over the floor, so now it all needed washing again... Hubby then decided to distrubute the clothes between the childrens bedroom floors instead of sorting it out.

hubby is goign away to see his DC for Christmas, and taking mine to their Dad's. I was looking forward to having a nice relaxing few days alone, in a tidy house, with no-one else here to mess it up. (as anyone with children knows, a totally clean house can be made to look like you've never heard of housework after 30 mins!) Hubby was supposed o be sorting out the clothes from airing cupboard (which I have refused to do until now) an dhelping 'blitz' the house before he goes tomorrow night. However, he spent all of yesterday tidying the garage!

I am so cross, I am going to have to spend at least one day they are away sorting the house out, probably two as I am in early pregnancy with bad morning sickness and sciatica which is really playing up at the moment, so I can only really do a little bit at a time.

I have totaly lost it with husband, during which he walked off with his fingers in his ears, and couldn't understand why it made me even more angry...

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midori1999 · 21/12/2009 17:53

Plus, I tol dhubby to go and see his children at Christmas, and I'd be fine on my own, as his daughter is having some serious problems at the moment, and I think they'd benefit from seeing him, and the ungrateful twit keeps saying he wants to spend Christms with me....

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TisTheSeasonToBeHully · 21/12/2009 17:54

This is not something I would usually say, especially to a pregnant woman with sciatica, but I do feel you are being just the teeniest bit U.

scrappydappydinglebells · 21/12/2009 18:07

Deepest sympathies my dh does similar - there are 101 things that need doing and he spent all yesterday making mince pies (yummy but still). Although (sigh) YABU purely because in the big wide scheme of things it doesn't matter also I'm very at you having a few days off....

Jamieandhismagictorch · 21/12/2009 18:33

I'm sorry, I am totally in love with my airing cupboard too, but your post made me laugh a little bit.

Clearly his priorities are different - maybe you could retaliate by messing up all the Man Stuff in the garage.

PS when I was pg with DS1, I spent A LOT of time re-organising my kitchen cupboards - turning all the tins round so they were facing front, and suchlike. Not that I'm suggesting you are nesting or anything hormonal like that ...

Shiregirl · 21/12/2009 19:07

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jasper · 21/12/2009 19:22

My dad is the master of the pointless unnecessary task when everyday chores are staring him in the face.

Fibilou · 21/12/2009 22:52

aren't they all, jasper ? and then claim the task was very important and now you will have to deal with the thing htye didn't want to do.

ChickensHaveNoTinsel · 21/12/2009 22:55

I definitely think that you should interfere with his man things. Mix up his screws or something. De-alphabetise his CD collection or shred his porn geek magazines to use as animal bedding.

jasper · 22/12/2009 00:21

my dad once spent a whole day replacing a wall switch he claimed was "a bit stiff".

He cracked the plaster all round the switch.

My kids were 4,3 and 1 at the time and there were 101 other things he could have done that would have been an actual help.

He also loves to go wild with strimmers and pruning shears in the garden and has killed several plants this way.

I love him dearly but he is so annoying sometimes

hobbgoblin · 22/12/2009 00:25

why do the animals have a whole bedroom to themselves. I can see why you'd be a bit posessive over the airing cupboard when the animals have a whole room to their very selves.

Bathsheba · 22/12/2009 04:55

I have to say you are being slightly Unreasonable......

The main reason the things were there to be messed up is that you hadn't finished your job and put the clothes away in the first place - you ran out of time and left them in the cupboard...

How much clothes are we talking about and what are the timescales involved here..?

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