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Original poster

am I being unreasonable over a pizza..

19 replies

purplepeony · 21/12/2009 17:36

and to expect complete back up from DH when I tell (adult) DS that it is not for HIM now, but for everyone later?

And DH replies "Oh I can buy another at the shops later".
That is not the F...ing point- I spent a fortune in Waitrose and there were 3 soups plus sandwich bits in fridge for lunch- not pizza.

This is a long-running saga with DH being what he thinks as reasonable, and me feeling ganged-up on.

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FabIsGettingReadyForXmas · 21/12/2009 17:38

YANBU though maybe just let your dh buy more and you refuse too?

Hell, scrap that tell them to sort out their own food.

merrycompo · 21/12/2009 17:40

Yanbu

get dh to do the shopping and meal planning and then eat the dinner he has planned for lunch and see what he says

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purplepeony · 21/12/2009 17:41

It's the cost of it all....I try to shop well and a £3.99 pizza was NOT meant for 1 person as I had made 2 lots of homemade soup!

I resent DH wasting OUR money- and me looking a fool in front of DS.

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Tortington · 21/12/2009 17:42

kick him in the manjo

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purplepeony · 21/12/2009 17:43

lol- what a good idea- he is currently at GPs showing off his crotch rot- yes, really.

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noddyholder · 21/12/2009 17:45

My dp does this We had 12 bottles the glass ones of coke that we only get at xmas and ds drank 6 of them in the last week and so the other 6 were NOT TO BE TOUCHED!he is currently on the sofa drinking one we need an ebeneezer emoticon for me!

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purplepeony · 21/12/2009 17:49

It's the principal isn't it- if he (DH) had asked me out of earshot of DS to let him eat it, it would not be so bad, but i was made to look stupid- this is the thin edge of a very big wedge of similar stuff over many years- with DS thinking I am an ogre, and Dad reasonable/soft touch/fool.

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snigger · 21/12/2009 18:03

It's this same mindset that leads me to hide biscuits in the linen cupboard - if I scheduled the fig-rolls to last two days, they farking well will, you will not scarf them absentmindedly as a means of passing the dull minutes between Goldenballs and the news.

It's all very well, but it's the family shopper who ultimately gets all the angst when you're left with two oxo cubes a jar of honey and some frozen peas from which to construct a supper.

diddl · 21/12/2009 18:08

I´ve told mine that at the moment they may only take milk and yoghurts without permission.
Everything else-ask!

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purplepeony · 21/12/2009 18:25

diddl- he did ask- I said no and DH - the bastard- said yes. He thinks I am being ridiculous. I think I am being frugal and principled.

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Alicehasamincepieintheoven · 21/12/2009 18:28

Buy cheapy ones from iceland instead, less hassle (no real nutritional value either...)

diddl · 21/12/2009 18:30

Sorry, went off at a bit of a tangent there!

Yes, my fridge has things in that are earmarked for particular meals & it would p!ss me off if I (having planned meals & bought the blöödy stuff) said no & husband said yes.

snigger · 21/12/2009 18:32

Fill the fridge with Tesco value everything for a week, fling the doors wide, and say "This is how we fund the help-ourselves-habit"

warthog · 21/12/2009 18:32

not acceptable. your dh should back you up.

oldraver · 21/12/2009 18:38

DS1 used to be a menace for this when he was late teen/early 20's. I would buy a pizza that was meant for dinner and he would eat the whole one to himself as lunch and he couldn't be bothered to do baked potatoe/chips etc to go with it so would scoff the whole lot

I have also known him in the past to cook a whole pack of mince and eat that for lunch 9no accompianments then for dinner have two chicken breats. His defence was that he was 'hungry'. I had to point out he had eaten the best part of probably 5/6 portions of food for himself for one days lunch and dinner, and just because he was too lazy to cook past/rice/ veg

He is now a student and had learned about budgeting

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purplepeony · 21/12/2009 18:41

oldraver my DS was a student for 4 years- now he is ...groan..back home looking for work.

I keep saying, it' s the principal- DH often gives in to their demands and I don't.

I think I am going to divorce him..seriously.
The pizza is the last straw.

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purplepeony · 21/12/2009 18:41

sorry- should know better- principle.

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SleighBelleDameSansMerci · 21/12/2009 18:48

I had a similar rant at DP last week after he helped himself to soup and bacon that was earmarked for Christmas meals. I'd been really frugal (by my standards) and his view that I could just buy replacements made a mockery of my sensible buying (which he bloody encourages). He genuinely couldn't understand why I was so furious. Also, he doesn't even live here so he could have asked first.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

waddlelikeaduck · 21/12/2009 23:17

I have exactly the same with my dh and ds who is@ten... Mainly dh though... He'll snack after midnight and use up all the bread so nothing for packed lunches and has been known ti drink all the milk too!

The other day they ate a whole packet od mini milky ways and wonder why I hide food! Beer/alcohol has to be hidden too or else dh will drink it all!

I'm sure they think housekeeping food budget is endless and that I like shopping..., Arghhh

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