Background: I've had back problems for about 9 months. Back pain which can leave me unable to stand. It isn't predictable when it will be a good back day or a bad back day, though obviously any situation where I tense up is more likely to make my back worse. So walking, sitting for long periods, being in the cold etc. All going to cause problems, and when my back gets really bad it takes a minimum of 3 days to ease off enough for me to even attempt stairs.
So this weekend was my mum's birthday, she lives an hour and half's drive away, and I adore her. I'd arranged with my dad to suprise her with a visit. Train seats are bad for my back, and driving is even worse, so dad was going to drive down to me, pick me and my fiance up and take us back to my parent's house.
My dad wanted me to stay the night there, but the only "bed" is a mattress on the floor, the same mattress I stopped using due to how much it hurt my back. So we asked if it was possible for him to drive us to my fiance's mum's house, where there is a better bed. He said ok.
On Thursday we decided that actually my fiance was going to stay in our flat and pack (we're moving in 2 weeks), and I was going to brave the night on the old mattress. We were meant to be talking to my dad the next day, so figured I'd tell him then.
The next day I wake up unable to move. Turns out that the freezing temperatures which had coated the south east in snow had turned my back into stone. I leave it for a few hours to see if it eases off, it doesn't, it actually gets worse, then I call dad and tell him that I don't think I can do the journey. He gives me a speech about how sometimes I just have to struggle through, and decides that he's going to call back in the morning, even though I point out my back is highly unlikely to ease off within 24 hours.
So next morning he calls back, and much to his surprise (and his alone) I tell him that my back still doesn't want to move, and that I can't sit for 5 mins, let alone an hour and a half (that's minimum considering the state of the snowy roads). He gets pissed off and says bye.
Later on my fiance gets a message from my younger brother telling us off for not coming up, and tells us we were out of order for wanting a lift to my fiance's mum's house. Nevermind that if my dad had said no, we'd have accepted it!
I spoke to my mum later to wish her a happy birthday, and it turns out my dad had been whining to her about me.
So now I'm in the dog house with my dad and brother, over two things I had no control over!
Have I read this all wrong? And AIBU? Either way, what on earth do I do now?