So as per usual I have single handedly battled with the crowds and cold to buy every single Xmas gift,written every card and sorted the food. Dp has over 3 Saturdays taken the kids to the park whilst I've done a lot of it,the rest I've managed to squeeze in. We moved in just before Xmas and I had Ofsted so more behind than usual.Dp has not even entered a shop once,on Monday I was going to do the last big food shop with the 3 dc 6,6 and 5.
Anyhow today we went to a nice farm with a playground to get cheese and a last few gifts which included a few stocking fillers for the dc. Dp took the kids out to the park halfway through whilst I did the gifts which took a while as I was trying to tot up money,keep to budgets etc.
On the way out I saw some wooly hats for me. My clothes situation is dire as always too busy and broke to sort myself out. Everybody else has been kitted out with wooly hats etc by me.I've had cold ears for a while so thought ideal op-unfortunately they were £20 but lovely and fitted(v rare). So I agonised for a while then went to get dp who was v unhappy as had to sit in the car with the dc for 1/2 hour as it was cold. I did point out they could have looked at all the lovely things inside.
So we all trooped back the dtwin boys were bored and let me know it,moaning for a drink,saying v loudly I hadn't given them much food at lunch(I had),slouching on the floor etc,dp v unhelpful sighing etc. DD lovely picking out lurid,skimpy tops to go with said hat. I quickly buy a hat,unable to think etc. We only have 1 car so I couldn't go back later alone.
On the way home I explode saying Christmas is a time for thinking of others but dp and boys were v unhelpful,mummy needed a hat etc.
So was I unreasonable to explode? I don't think dp was setting a good example,he bleated about having to sit in the car but that was the only time over the last few weeks he's had to even step foot in a shop or hang around waiting for me. I don't begrudge doing all the Christmas prep at all but just think they should have thought about others instead of themselves.
Dp is normally v reasonable and lovely so this is why I'm posting,was I wrong to expect a little help? Was it wrong to tell the dtwins off. Am I expecting too much of 6 year olds?
He's sheepishly putting up a shelf which I've been nagging about for ages so wondering if he feels bad.
Oh and the sodding hat-I managed to pick one up with a hole in due to trying to get out quick
Off to pour myself some Baileys