to want to tell Ex-H's Facebook pals what he's really like?

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I've brought up my DC (12 and 14) alone since DD2 was 7 weeks old. Over the years Ex-H has lied to avoid paying maintainance and only in the past year has he chosen to have any contact with my DC, once a month for about an hour. That aside he was violent to me during our relationship although he wouldn't dare try it now, and is generally a "big I am " type of prick.

DD1 has recently hooked up with him on FB. So, I took a peek, like you do. I read of his recent engagement, his holiday, the new 3 piece leather suite and so on.

I know its childish and I have no intention of doing it but I am so tempted to post some remarks. Such as....

"Glad you had a good holiday. Shame you couldn't afford to buy your DDs shoes"

"A weekend off? Pity you didn't have the time to visit your DDs for more than an hour"

"Congratulations on your engagement. Sad that your DDs had to learn of it on Facebook".

As I said, I have absolutely no intention of saying a word, but AIBU to want to?

YA Def not ABU to want to. Bet writing it all down helped.. Hoped so.

What a prize prick.

It is fine to think about it, but don't do it. I sometimes imagine, when I am talking to mean people, that they have what I think of them written on their forehead in black marker.

YANBU to want to do it. I had fantasies about saying something along the of "It's nice to see that you can afford to eat takeaway food. Such a shame you can't afford to pay for your child though" to my twunt ex, after a guy with his exact same name rang an ordered a meal from my workplace. T'was not him though.

YABU to actually do it though, as tempting as it is. You'd look like some crazy stalker woman. And your dd wouldn't thank you for it.

Him being such a sad loser is it's own punishment
Well done you on escaping from the tosser, just remind yourself how lucky you are not to be with him anymore
And don't look at his facebook (unless it's to laugh at him )- he's not worth your time!

MillyR, I'm liking that theory!

Its one step up from imagining the job interviewer on the loo!

When not-so-D Ex-husband next graces the girls with his presence (and £15 each for Xmas, as he "doesn't know them so doesn't know what to get them".... well whose fault is that FFS?!), I shall be PMSL at the thought of the word "prick" written on his forehead!

YABU to yourself...don't go looking at fb - go and pamper yourself instead and have a long hard think about how you had a lucky escape from the titytwat

its a natural emotion your feeling.

be safe in the knowledge that your kids know - they do.

they may still want a relationship with their other parent - this is natural, but don't underestimate their intelligence.

they will one day have their own kids, and val, if you manage to keep your dignity you will be held in such high esteem

Oh Custy, I'm guilty.... they know alright!