to p'orf that my dh has embarked on a 200mile jolly this weekend?

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It is a friends girlfriends 30th birthday tomorrow, she is having a party tonight. We couldn't get a babysitter so rather than let his friend down my DH is travelling the 100 miles to their house to go out for a meal and some drinks, stay the night and come back tomorrow.

This in itself I wouldn't mind but for the following:

• I am missing my work's do so he can go.
• I have been at work today and it was very busy so getting a text at 5pm saying hurry home was not appreciated.
• My DH actually having his coat on when I got home and telling me he was late.
• My DH wanting to give said girlfriend a very nice bottle of champagne we got given as a wedding present and being narked at me when I said no I wanted to keep champagne for ourselves.
• Friends then phoning to say they couldn't wait for him and he would have to meet them somewhere else.

He is driving 100 miles to be with them tonight it really has pissed me off everyones attitude.

I am left at home with a 2year old and a 4 year old, bah bloody hum bug.Season of goodwill pah!

Hmm, I think you need to organised lots and lots of babysitters so this doesn't happen again. If you don't have local teenagers to oblige, join a sitters agency.

He is out of order for wanting to give away the Champagne. Maybe he wanted to save money.

You could have said no.

I would be very annoyed. But then, I think my DH would just make his apologies and not go.
It's only a birthday party, not a wedding! People get one every year.

I did say no to giving away champers, yes he wanted to save money but by spending £25 on petrol and another £50 on a meal and drinks I think maybe that is another of a gift/effort?

The trouble is DH is too bloody nice - he will always go uot of his way not to let other people down even if it means pissing me off and letting me down. After 19 years Í should be used to it.

But tonight so near christmas I just want to cry.

He should be putting YOU first and he isn't that nice if he is upsetting his WIFE.

YANBU, I would be very peeved too. Especially the text telling you to hurry back from work.

I'd be seriously pissed off. About all of it but getting home to find someone already in their coat, complaining that they might be late for a night of fun and larks that I wasn't having would top it right off.