To tell DH that mood swings is not an excuse for nastyness?

[MeltedWhiteChocolate]

My DH suffers from mood swings and apparantly has all his life. Hes fine one minute then flies off the handle or goes in a massive sulk the next. His excuse when hes happy again is "just another mood swing" but Im sick of hearing this. Its like he expects us to say "oh, well thats ok then!" everytime.
It all kicked off yesterday when DD brough down a massive pile of dirty clothes from her bedroom. He was just loading the washing machine when I heard him shout "for fucks sake" and he then shouted of DD. She'd left sanitary pads stuck in her underwear and he'd nearly put them in the wash. So I can understand him being pissed off but he went on and on and on about it. Made her sort it out herself and then went in another massive sulk because she threw the pads in the kitchen bin without wrapping them up or anything. He then spent the rest of the day in a massive grump.
Yes dd was in the wrong and he was right to be annoyed at her but to go on and on and on?

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Are you MeltedChocolateTrees (or something like that?)

YANBU

My Dad was like this all my early life, and there's no excuse for it.

I have mood swings, probably most of us do, but we have to learn to live with it & hold back.

It is not right to treat children in this way, its basically bullying.

Would he think it was ok if you treated him that way periodically? Or if DD did? Exactly.

He needs to grow up & behave like a mature adult.

(sorry for ranting!)

that sounds really hard to deal with. I would feel like I was walking on eggshells the whole time.

Did you know there are mood stabilising medications out there? They could really help your DH...

He won't go to the doctor.

Its horrible because the slightest and wierdest thing will set him off and then all hell breaks lose and half the time you dont even know what you have done to annoy him.
This morning it was because I'd left a game out of its case but I didn't find this out until about an hour ago as hes been giving me the silent treatment all day.

Melted - my dad sounds very similar to your DH. He flies off into a rage and noone knows what it;s all about because he won't TALK about it. It's so frustrating.
To some extent I am similar in that I do give my DH the silent treatment sometimes but I've really had to work on it and now I force myself to say what I am upset about at the outset so at least he knows what the problem is. Often now we can sort it all out within half an hour and it prevents a day or more of frostiness.
Would he consider any kind of talking therapies or would he feel really uncomfortable with this? I suppose it depends to what extent he sees these mood swings as a problem himself....

I must admit, i would be pissed off at your dd too, that is disgusting! Why would you ever change your drawers and leave that in there? Eeww!
YANBU though if he gets moody over other unimportant stuff.

She's only young roulade.

Doesn't warrant her dad going ballistic. Probably embarrassed enough as it is.