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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Really flipping p'd off

12 replies

coolma · 19/12/2009 12:39

So dd is having a party today at the gym - it's costing us a fair bit, which is fine, but we had to invite a minimum of ten, which we did...so does any fucker respond? Well, 3 close friends have. The rest are nursery parents, who I donlt actually get to see, so it's difficult to contact them. Am I being out of order or is it simple courtesy???? We are having to pay the full price obviously, so I feel a bit hacked off

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skidoodle · 19/12/2009 12:43

It is simple courtesy to respond to an invitation.

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coolma · 19/12/2009 12:51

thank you

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FairyLightsForever · 19/12/2009 12:57

Really sorry coolma, it is disgusting that they haven't responded for your Dd and for you

MummyDragon · 19/12/2009 13:45

Did you post earlier in the week about this, or is another poor MNetter also dealing with this too? Of course you're hacked off, and you have every right to be. Rude b*stards.
Hope your DD enjoys her party nonetheless, and that you do too.

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coolma · 19/12/2009 13:49

Must be someone else too! We should have had a joint party

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nannynobnobs · 19/12/2009 13:53

How annoying for you. My friend's dd1's birthday is two days after Christmas and last year nobody came because they all forgot
This year she moved the party to the 10th and they all had a great time.

ZsazsaCarnadine · 19/12/2009 14:27

I wrote earlier this year, my sister had a party for my nephew's 5th birthday at a softplay centre. Out of 30 children who she invited, 5 came. No other replies at all. I just couldn't get over the bad manners of the parents.

Also felt very sorry for nephew sitting there waiting for people to arrive.

MargeSimpsonMyAlterEgo · 19/12/2009 14:38

YANBU at all. I once had a party at a wacky warehouse for DS where everyone responded in advance apart from one. I rang to check and she said "oh, you didn't expect me to reply did you?". Then she turned up with several other of her kids in tow as well. It was like it was her party! Nice enough woman but clueless..

GrumpyWhenWoken · 19/12/2009 14:43

It's my DS1's party today and we've had the same thing, I have no idea how many are coming, so I've paid for food for 24 children and probably about 10 will come.

So no YNBU at all, it's really rude.

And.... one mother has told me that her son has a cough, then mentioned something about another party at the same time that he would be well enough to go to! Grrrrrr!

diddl · 19/12/2009 14:47

How old is your daughter?
After a certain age,the children would phone or say yes/no in class & parents didn´t respond.

karen2205 · 19/12/2009 16:41

I think it's a bit foolhardy to book a party that requires a minimum number of kids without being reasonably certain you're going to have that many attend. I also think that today (last Saturday before Christmas, first day of the school holidays for many people) was always going to be a day when many people would have prior engagements and possibly a bad day to attempt to have a child's birthday party.

On the other hand, I do think the parents (assuming the children are small enough that parents do this) are rude to not respond at all. If you'd had lots of 'no thank yous' you could have rearranged/

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coolma · 19/12/2009 17:46

well, 5 came and she had a lovely time. I don't think we were being particularly foolhardy - she invited a certain nummber, had they had the manners to let us know, even a few days in advance, then we could have asked others. Anyway, all that matters is that she and they had fun - although dh and his wallet may disagree!

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