then i wuldnt have to deal with MIL and sisters and brothers in law! all nosey and always up in our business. He has 8 siblings, none of them are married but have kids with one or several different partners and and it seems they are either jealous or just plain nasty to us, me inparticular. he came from a broken home to begin with as he only has one 100% sister same mum and dad is what i mean. All the rest are half sisters or brothers and i guess this is probably why they have not settled down or chose to live how they are. I dont know and i dont care but when it starts affecting my life, then i have to get annoyed. They are always having little digs and putting him in situations where he has to choose between me or them. we have been together 7 years, married 1 and have an almost 3 year old, and it still seems they cant accept that we are commited to each other. His brothers are always trying to drag him along to clubs and parties like he is still single, he has been a few times with them, which I dont mind, he needs some lads time, but lately he has been turning them down as he works 5 nights and prefers to spend the other 2 with me and DD. the thing is they dont take a hint, they still come over and practically beg him to come out. his sisters all have boyfriends and their kids dads but always seem to need him do run errands, or fix this or that or drop them of or pick them up from somewhere. They are also over critical about our flat, we have done it how we like it and with what we could afford, and I feel like they look down on us, so what if my fridege is second hand, i got it from freecycle and its a great fully working fridge! dont even start on the MIL. She still thinks he is attached to her by the umbilical cord. My DH was going for an operation, he had to change into a hopital gown, and i went into the change room with him to collect his clothes, she just burst in with him almost starkers and starts ranting about when I wasnt around it was her that used to go hospital with him!!! he has sleep apnea and the doc wanted an idea of how bad his snoring was, she wanted to answer the questionaire!!Ummmm, you dont sleep at our house, nevermind next to him so how would you know! I would know, i sleep next to him every night!!!! Now its christmas time and they dont celebrate as its against their religion. Earlier today she popped over to visit and promptly screwed her face and if looks could kill i would be dead! As soon as she got into the living room, there in front of her was my 6ft tree dressed and lit, loads of docorations and DD dressed as mrs claus, imagine her reaction. I told her, this is my house, i will do what i want in it. She immediately started on DH about why he has these Pagan items in the house like if i didnt even matter or i didnt live here. I just took DD and went into my room as she was very loud and used alot of foul language. I dont know what to do anymore, it is so upsetting to DH. He loves his mum and relatives but he realises that they dont care what makes him happy, as long as they have what they want. I really want DD to know them and know her cousins etc but I cant stand them any more!!!! ok rant over!! thanks for reading and Happy Christmas!