to want my friend to apologise when she cancels our arranagement (again)?

[ADingDongDandyChristmasLioness]

My friend has just cancelled our arranged evening out with our DHs for Monday night by text. Didn't say sorry at all, just said her DH has a work lunch do that may run into the evening. We arranged this weeks ago, and my friend knows I arranged a babysitter especially. I appreciate that they may not have known about the work lunch then, but I would appreciate a 'sorry' for cancelling. Only polite, surely? She has offered two alternative dates after Christmas, but still around the Christmas period so my babysitter will be away and family is out for various reasons.

I am annoyed. I was really looking forward to it. But also, out of the last five plans we've made, she's cancelled (rather than rearranged) four of them at shortish notice. Each time I've been inconvenienced in a minor way, i.e. DD was let down as she'd been really looking forward to seeing my friend's children. Friend doesn't seem to appreciate that we don't all have grandparents who can babysit at least three times a week at the drop of the hat, and that some of us have to plan in advance [grumpy emoticon]

Yes, she should have said sorry, but there's no need to cancel your night out with your DH, is there?

YANBU to be annoyed that your friend has cancelled without so much as an apology especially as you have made childcare arrangements, but I would see this from the other side, and arrange to go out somewhere with DH, just the 2 of us. No reason why you should lose out if the kids are sorted.

Def. still go out with your DH, but YANBU to be annoyed. Why can't her DH finish his lunch do in time for the evening, fgs?!! She should have apologised as well, but texts are really not for this kind of conversation - they always sound ruder than they are meant.

Some people are cancellers - it's annoying but unfortunately that's the way it is.

We're abso-bloody-lutely still going out.
And yes, paologirl, you're right, mobile phones aren't made for that type of conversation, which is why I try and phone when I have to cancel something (only with a good excuse, mind)

It's more that this is a pattern and the fact that my friend is unlikely to be easy-going about someone cancelling on her.

YANBU. It's so annoying and yes you should get an apology.

I have a friend like this and I just don't make plans with her anymore. I feel better by just staying in touch by text and cards - I was sick of me, DH and my children being constantly let-down, I just don't have the stress of it anymore.

Like me i'm sure you have plenty of other friends that don't let you down and that you can rely on.

If she's cancelled 4 times out of 5, frankly I'd stop making plans with her...