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to expect DH to be home soon?

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countrylover · 18/12/2009 00:56

I used to love the Christmas party season...when I had a life and I hadn't had the last dregs of humanity sucked out of me raising children! But DH still gets to enjoy it all, not fair .....while I stay at home every day doing mundane tasks with little adult interaction.

He said he'd get the last train, clearly it's too late for that now. I've tried calling him and no answer. I can't sleep now of course.

AIBU to get cross? After all, he rarely goes out these days but then again he said he'd be home by midnight latest. Not answering his phone is not on, right?

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TeamEdward · 18/12/2009 01:02

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SantasKinkyKnickers0nMaHead · 18/12/2009 01:07

YANBU. My ex used to do this to me all the time. Then stroll in as though nothing was wrong.

I'm sure your DH will roll in either in the early hours or in the morning, tail between legs!

jasper · 18/12/2009 01:08

If it's not a regular occurrence I think you should try not to worry. I don't think it is a big deal. I have often missed phone calls if I have been somewhere noisy

You also need to arrange a night out for yourself soon!

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countrylover · 18/12/2009 01:11

Exactly TeamEdward, I'm worried as well as annoyed. Men just don't think though do they?

Apart from anything else I couldn't/wouldn't leave my phone in my coat or anywhere I wouldn't hear it when I was out in case something was wrong with the children and I was needed.

Arsehole.

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Awassailinglookingforanswers · 18/12/2009 01:15

I'm with jasper here. I always have my phone "on" me - but I still don't always hear it, especially if I'm in a noisy pub.

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countrylover · 18/12/2009 01:19

These are all good points but I'm more annoyed a) because i'm jealous, I want to have a christmas party to go to and have a life and b) i can't frickin' sleep now!

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jasper · 18/12/2009 01:21

You need to arrange a night out! What is stopping you?

You don't need sleep when you have the mumsnet insomniacs to keep you company

Awassailinglookingforanswers · 18/12/2009 01:21

awww - similar happened to me a few weeks ago.

Huge row (though there were deeper issues as well - which have since been removed) ensued - followed by me getting out for a p*ss-up (or 2) myself.

You need to organise yourself out and leave him home with the kid(s?) and roll back in whatever time you fancy (it's very liberating LOL).

Hope he gets back soon/you get some sleep

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countrylover · 18/12/2009 01:32

too right i need a bloody night out. the trouble is i start yawning around 11pm and then i want to go home - so try as i might, i can never roll in at this sort of time. oooh how i'd love to do it though and switch my phone off for good measure ...

still no sign and still not answering his phone. he's not the type to ignore my calls so he's clearly somewhere really loud or left it in his coat....or he's coped off with the secretary and is banging her senseless over the photocopying machine.

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jasper · 18/12/2009 01:38

None has photocopiers any more - everyone has scanners

If you can't stay up past 11 you get to have two nights out for each night he stays out really late . It's the law!

BlackLetterDay · 18/12/2009 02:07

YANBU to get cross, I would go to sleep and then leave him with the dc's in the morning. Sure they would provide him with lots of waking uo style fun

girlsyearapartispregnant · 18/12/2009 07:55

What time did he come home then?

My DH is still not back from his night out..

No contact since 9.50 pm then I rang him 3 times at about 7am and he finally rang back to say he'd slept at a friends house.

Don't care about him sleeping there but would be nice to be told!

And I found out I was pregnant yesterday..

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countrylover · 18/12/2009 11:30

Yep, he rolled in (literally) at 3am claiming his phone was broken which it did appear to be...

At least it means he didn't get the 20 or so missed calls from me and two abusive text messages!

I sent DS1 in at 7am with instructions to shout at daddy and wake him up. He didn't rise until 8am at which point I said I was going back to bed. I've had another two
hours sleep so I feel more human and he feels like he's dying as he's had to look after the DC's for two hours on his own. Ha!

We still haven't spoken though. I think it's better that way. I don't trust myself not to go mental at him. I'll wait until the DC's are asleep in bed before I make my points in a calm and rational way.

TE - I'm in London but otherwise I would love a night out with some fellow grumpy housewifes - what happened to my life that's what I want to know?! Since when did I become the old nagging cow at home. It used to me out partying until dawn...admittedly that was a loooooong time ago now.

Finally congrats Girlsyear - let's hope your DH was making the most of his last night of freedom ... I bet he won't be getting many more now!

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