Apologies in advance if this is a bit long! I am having a conundrum about our New Year plans.
Last January (before I gave birth to DD) I decided it would be lovely to spend New year away with some friends and the baby that would be 10 months at that point. I had images of a little remote cottage, open fires, fun days and chilled out evenings with glasses of wine and games around the fire. So we booked a cottage away with me, DD DP, a couple and a single friend.
Obviously I had no idea what having a baby would actually be like, and I really thought by 10 months things would be EASY. Until fairly recently I stil held out that hope.
However, on two recent trips, despite sleeping through the night at home, DD has slept HORRENDOUSLY, the best night being when she slept until 5am, the worst when she didn't go to sleep until 2.30am and then woke at 6am. The second trip she was cutting her top teeth so I know this could have accounted for some of it, but I am now really nervous about Christmas and New Year (we are away for the whole holiday period).
I spoke to my female friend and told her my worries and that I didn't want to ruin their New Year but I needed to let them know that it may be stressful for me and DP and that they may have to keep the noise down - i.e. it won't be a party house. She was reassuring and said they understood, even offering to have a night on duty (really don't think she realises what she's offered to do...)
However, we have done an online shop to be delivered there. I did the shop and passed it over to the couple to check it was OK. I had put what I thought was a reasonable amount of alchohol bearing in mind we are there for 4 nights and each night either me or DP can't drink too much in case DD wakes (we are taking in turns to be sober).
However, friend's DH has added loads to it and the booze stands at: 3 boxes red, 3 boxes white, 2 bottles champagne, 45 cans beer, 12 bottles beer, 1 bottle gin, 1 bottle vodka, 1 bottle port, 1 bottle sambuca, 1 bottle tequila.
I'm now so stressed about the whole thing as none of them have kids or know what it's like and are expecting drinking games, staying up all night etc. To top it off, friend's DH has a penchant for a certain columbian drug and has mentioned he will be bringing some. I feel SO uncomfortable about this. Am I within my rights to say he shouldn't and that people will have to be quiet, not bang doors late etc. Or should we not go if we have a problem with it? Or should i just lighten up! Option 1 or 2 will cause offence with friend's DH so I'm probably being a wimpy about stating my case too strongly as I know my friend will probably get the brunt of it. She's really looking forward to spending time with DD as she's not well and doesn't get to see her much.... opinions and advice appreciated!