To be peeved that my mum is feeding my 7 month DD profiterole?

[Purplebuns]

Just that! Honestly she was baby sitting her for one hour!

Also pfb syndrome here, will it hurt her?

Did you want her to avoid eating sweet stuff? If so and you told your mum this then yanbu.

If it wasn't clear to your mum then yabu.

Often it's not about the dessert "hurting" the child - it's about the whole relationship and gps can and do take the p*ss sometimes.

I am really avoiding sweet stuff, my little sister was indulged and is really picky now.
Also diabetes although type 2, is in my family.

My mother does know I am avoiding rubbish food. And is just being cheeky, giving these thing to DD when I am not supervising.

profiterole not so bad in the grand scheme.

we don't eat meat or fish and my 2yr dd was fed fucking fish finger at nursery. grrr.
worse still she ate it all and loved it and kept telling me all about "ish ingers".

You know these things aren't going to hurt them and (unfortunately) have to accept IT'S GOING HAPPEN!
...maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but soon and for the rest of their lives...

I totally agree that nearest and dearest should at least bloody listen and try to go along with our withes....
it's not called "spoiling" for nothing...

wishes, obviously...doh.

My FIL gave DS2 custard when he was 4 weeks old.

I'm not kidding, it was 2 weeks ago, he was sitting across me and I saw him stick the spoon in his mouth and DS2 licking his lips. It was a family do and I couldn't make a big fuss but managed a rather cross 'Please don't do THAT!' And he blatantly denied it though I saw him do it...

And they wonder why I only allowed DS1 to stay overnight with them only recently at 20 months old...

First child?

YAB a bit preciuos
A profiterole is not so bad
Cutting out all bad food will end up with child craving and gorging on 'bad' food
All things in moderation.
Keep it in perspective.

So YANBU but it could be worse... You could have my FIL as your FIL!

Yanbu. You don't want her to have sweet things just yet then hell, you know what? You're allowed to have an opinion. You are after all her parent!

Y'know, I really hate the, "Oh it's just pfb. You'll get over it," reasoning.

Too simplistic and very very smug - there's almost always more to it, folks.

Really, don't worry about it. My Grandmother has insisted since day one on giving my children juice to drink (they only have water or milk at home, except for treats)and filling them with an inane amount of crisps, biscuits, sweets and cakes. She also gives them pudding every day, which is somethign we rarely have at home except special occasions, if we have guests, or if I am feeling especially 'wifely'.

Guess what?! They still have a healthy diet a home, (they only see my Grandparents occasionally, due to distance) still happily drink milk or water, eat plenty of fruit and veg, and most importantly of all, they still love me and don't think I am cruel and evil.

It's a profiterole, not arsenic. Get over yourself

FFS! so what?

i dont think it'll hurt. but really it is up to u what u want her to eat...not ur mum :p
i allow my 14m old DD a treat now and then,but i make sure that other ppl ask me first if it is ok.
annoys me when ppl presume i wont mind them handing her a choccy biscuit.

I'm not sure the FFS's/get over yourselves are necessary. OP admitted further up she was perhaps a little PFB. Aren't most of us at one time or another ?

I agree with Jamie... Don't really need FFSs on this thread... I knew it wouldn't hurt my 4-week-old DS to have some custard smeared all over his lips and him actually tasting some but doesn't mean I like it and approve of FIL doing it. I would challenge anyone here with a 4-week-old baby (whether it's their 1st or 4th or 20th child!) to watch someone smear custard all over their baby's mouth and not actually feel the urge to feel irked by it and say something...

Well, profiteroles aren't really too bad in the grand scheme of things. Choux pastry (usually pretty soft due to absorbing the filling), and a lightly sweetened cream in the centre. Not very sugary, not usually filled with E numbers and chemicals, and not really a choking hazard. I wouldn't lump profiteroles in the junk food category. Necessary, no, but hardly something to get riled up over.

It is stressful when your mum is going against your express wishes, and perhaps you should talk to her about why you are upset. If she does it again, then just don't leave your daughter alone with her. I certainly don't trust my MIL (tried to shove a piece of bread in my 6 week old son's mouth to shut him up!), and would never dream of leaving him alone with her.

Ditto when I found PILs feeding dd a chocolate bar when she wasn't even 8 weeks old - I knew it wouldn't kill her, but you do get that awful "oh good god what will that do?" feeling, and also are made to feel like the fun-sucker for saying something about it....

Yanbu to be annoyed, I am annoyed that my family and the in laws feel the need to introduce my children to hot chocolate & marshmallows just before lunch/ family size packets of quavers each/ and are constantly finding toffees in their hair.

My DDs are 4 & 2, they think a treat is going to the park, reading the book again because it's soooo good and giggle if you tickle their tummies. They just want time and attention. It won't always be like that so why rush it?

I'm not a control freak but trying to minimize tantrums by making sure that blood sugar & sleep levels are normal most of the time else I get left with the crying, constipated, whining child and my fil smirking 'they were lovely all morning with us'.

I'm tired and instead of seeing our families as a support I feel it's them against us.

I look forward to the treats escalating and hearing grandpa sliping an 8 year old an E because she likes to dance or trying to boost a 10 year olds confidence with a bit of columbias finest.

Yanbu to be annoyed, I am annoyed that my family and the in laws feel the need to introduce my children to hot chocolate & marshmallows just before lunch/ family size packets of quavers each/ and are constantly finding toffees in their hair.

My DDs are 4 & 2, they think a treat is going to the park, reading the book again because it's soooo good and giggle if you tickle their tummies. They just want time and attention. It won't always be like that so why rush it?

I'm not a control freak but trying to minimize tantrums by making sure that blood sugar & sleep levels are normal most of the time else I get left with the crying, constipated, whining child and my fil smirking 'they were lovely all morning with us'.

I'm tired and instead of seeing our families as a support I feel it's them against us.

I look forward to the treats escalating and hearing grandpa sliping an 8 year old an E because she likes to dance or trying to boost a 10 year olds confidence with a bit of columbias finest.

It won´t hurt her-but why do some grandparents feel the need to do this?

If the baby has been fed, she can last an hour?

Yanbu to be annoyed, especially since it was not the first time and she knew that you would not like it.

Of course it won't harm her, but you knew that already but it would make me wonder what other things my mum was doing that I would prefer she did not. Is she like this in other things?

I think that the mince pie was worse tbh, as it likely contained nuts which afaik should be avoided in the first year.

Hi, thanks for the lovely replies, I stopped the mince pie as I walked back in the room. So not too much was consumed!

I will give my mum a reminder of my diet preferences for her I think.
I just don't want to stop her seeing my mum, as dd really likes her!