to think my husband should give up his job because I've asked him to

[Reindeerinmygardenwhatelfisnew]

I loathe dh's job!

He has his own business and every year it's the same - Christmas is his busiest time, there are sacks of work to do and he does it all, I'm totally ignored! The customers are his only priority and he just slogs on till everything is done. He works impossible hours, pulls an all nighter at least once and our Christmas is a total waste of time. Every year i hope it will be different, that his self belief will just have withered, that the customers won't send in their orders and so we won't have to go through it but no, he's just come and said he thinks he'll be doing an all nighter next week to get everything done. Am very pissed off - and he doesn't see it, just tries to jolly me along

AIBU?

Oh no, poor you. Are there any little helpers he could employ on a temporary basis, just to get him through his busy period?

you are being very unreasoanble to expect him to quit his job just because you say so

BUT, he does need to think of you a bit more, and sort out properly how he will manage the work so that he doesn't do it all and so that the same thing doesn't keep happening

ohh no, you totally got me!

pmsl

do you know, jsut thjis morning i was telling me friend how bloodyt stupid having three babies has made me!!! lol

Littlefish - he does employ a large staff although many of them are vertically challenged it's true! Spare me the jokes - I've heard them all and pointed out the irony of Elf and Safety when he's literally working 24 hours at a stretch, flying through the work!

Maybe you could encourage him to take some time off after Christmas? Let him have a good long lie-in on Boxing Day, maybe lunch in bed? Then you can wash his dirty, smelly work-clothes (making sure you don't put the red jacket and trousers in with any whites of course). Then maybe take a holiday somewhere warm - although if he has to travel a lot for his job he may not be so keen to go. I think his job must be very worthwhile and you should be very proud of him.

Christ sounds like my dh's real job.

Shire - dh wouldn't postpone Christmas - it's his reason for living!

YABU. It's his job.

Couldn't you go with him? Or would elf and safety not allow it? Bet fringe benefits are good though, ppl are generous with mince pies and whisky at this time of year. Could all pass in a very pleasant haze.

Well surely after the busy Christmas rush there must be a quiet period. in fact I think it may be quite quiet for the majority of the year. So YABU and actually you should lend a hand. I'm sure that there are jobs that you could help with - does he receive a lot of mail at this time of year which you could deal with? HTH.

Heated - he did offer but his work involves small spaces and working at heights and I'm crap at both.

No, it'll just be me alone at home with the selection box and Dad's Army on dvd (nobody wants that).

Hahahahaha!! Very good!

But think of all the disappointed customers if he did quit his job!

I think you're being selfish. My ds has already had a personal e-mail from your husband's company assuring him that his order has been received and will be despatched on or around the 24th.

Think of others, not yourself, for goodness sake

Can he get me some 'deer poo for the garden?

At least most people are very specific with their orders. That must make things easier for him.

Ruby - I could kiss you! I have said that so many times!!! Do you know what he says?

'Ho no I couldn't do that!'

And yes we do get a lot of post, too bloody much. Every other business gets orders by e-mail now but oh no that would be too modern for dh. You should see his company car!!!

RubysReturn - nice one

do you mind other women sitting on his lap?

cos I really want to......

He might find is has less work if he prioritises his customers between those who have been naughty and those who have been nice. If he focuses on the nice ones it won't come as a shock to the naughty customers if their orders are unfulfilled.

Littlefish - NO - it's all pressure, pressure. Dh isn't just grey - his hair is white as snow and he doesn't even have time to shave! We never talk, sometimes I feel we're poles apart.