AIBU to think that my inlaws should be able to purchase/wrap/send their grandchildren xmas presents?

[nicolamumof3wisemen]

Every bloody year!!! they can just about cope with ordering stuff now from Amazon but nothing is never wrapped. AIBU?

nope YANBU

none of my childrens grandparents are capable of choosing, paying for nor generally even trying to think about what to buy them for Xmas/birthdays

< sigh >

The ds's get money from MIL, which is better imo, it gors in their savings. My Mum buys them presents, which is good, but not always a good choice iykwim. And my Dad is rubbish and I get something then tell him how much it was

they won't do giftwrap at amazon because they charge for it

whereas i have all the time in the world to wrap of course!!

ILs expect us to choose, buy and wrap dd's present. Then we have to smuggle it into their hands together with pen for them to write gift-tag just before they give it to her with a flourish. Usually, they don't even bother to find out what it is before she opens it.

Then they sit on their laurels and look smug at how much pleasure they have given her.

Sometimes, they remember to reimburse the money. Sometimes, they don't.

My Dad gives me money for the DDs which some of it I use to buy presents, wrap, then give to him to give to them when he visits. I don't mind he doesn't have a clue what 4 and 5 yo girls are into and gets stressed in shops.

MIL used to give me money but buy token gifts to (well that were probably more than the money she gave me)

My Mum put money in a card which I found a bit for toddlers as she couldn't be bothered shopping for them.

YANBU. I usually have this problem, but ILs have surpassed themselves this year. They asked me for the ideas, but have managed to buy the stuff themselves for a change. My own mother generally can't be arsed to wrap things for some reason

YABU and ungrateful. Be thankful they buy them gifts.
Many don't

It was Nigella who said she could make a book look like a bottle! That's me!

My mother has instructed me to choose and buy my & DDs present online because she "Doesn't trust internet banking".

But it's ok for me to do, of course.

My mum couldn't think what to get ds this Christmas I offered her a present I had bought for him myself that I'm really pleased with and know he will love she took it home then brought it back saying they Pa and her thought it was a crap present and that I should send it back and that she has now bought a much better present of her own. Pha mothers!!

Mind you MIL just says she doesn't really like children and she'll give em a cheque

My inlaws usually arrive on Christmas Eve with the words
"have you got any wrapping paper? and tags? and sellotape?"

we get extra in now.

Although they're not coming this year.

My MIL never sends any presents for anyone for anything because she likes to drink instead... She has sent Christmas cards though which was a nice surprise.
I had to laugh because the dds got cards that have the little cutout corners inside to put in a gift card/voucher, but she didn't put anything in.

my mil has bought my 4 yr dd a duck radio

that was after I suggested we go together to choose something for the girls. ho hum.

Not only has my MIL never chosen a present, (although she does give the money),but this year we are travelling 100 miles to see her and SIL (and her family) at weekend and none have made any effort to arrange to meet us. Although they have told us they are going out for sunday lunch but we're not invited!!Ho-hum - nice weekend in hotel for us, but I'd rather be at home.

my MIL and FIL died quite a few years ago, so dc never met them. my parents are in another country and see dc once a year, if we are lucky as flights are quite expensive and even more so at christmas. would give anything to spend time with them at this time of year, bugger the presents YABU, count your blessings and stop whingeing. it only wrapping paper FGS