slathers self with coconut oil and prepares for a roasting...

[CitizenPrecious]

My dcs are leaving their school on Friday this week. Although I've had children at the school for the best part of ten years, it's definitely time.

I'm going to home ed them until places come up at a better school (woh woh woh! hold on, that's not the AIBU)...

They are in a Nativity play this week (not speaking- but dressed up as domesticated animals and generally being cute).

Now, I have been to everything school thing my dcs have been in (and some they haven't), every school trip, assembly, parents' evening and so on over the years.

Problem is I am a big sentimental idiot and a blubberer. I sob through things that my kids aren't even in. Because of our long association with the school, because of leaving, because little children doing singing and things on stage is so damn lovely, because it's Christmas and because somewhere along the line Away In a Manger is going to come into it (waaaaaaaaah) I am going to be in tatters. I am not even going to be able to see any of it, I shall just be blarting at the back and making a holy show of myself.

So. Am I Being Unreasonable if I get their dad to go, and I go shopping instead?

Yabu. Feel the fear and do it anyway, or summat like that. Don't avoid it. Loads of other people will be wailing like loons. I start crying at all these events before the singing has even started.

(Sorry to hear about the school btw. Is it primary? yes I am nosey. Are you in the borough beginning with S?)

YANBU

I didn't go to DD's this year. It was complicated - various reasons - but her dad and brother went in the end and me being a wreck from start to finish was a factor.

but I am an eejit though...

YABU you mean mother. Go and blub and be proud.

Oh go - imo only heartless people don't cry at little ones singing Away in a Manger and bottling up all that emotion will only lead to a migraine over Christmas

Feels the need to stand and publicly announce My name is lemonadesparkle and I'm a serial sobbing fool at any primary aged child singing carols at Christmas

oh, bobbins, bibbity, I knew you'd say that

...as to borough I am not at liberty to say

My 8 year old ds sang a solo last night and as he came to the the front of the stage I saw that he had holes in the knees of his trousers that hadn't been there when I sent him off in the morning! He looked so like a blond Just William and sang so beautifully I've barely stopped crying yet!

...at one of my dcs leaving thingies (which was not a grand affair or anything you could consider moving- just a rush up onto the stage and a brisk handshake) I burst out crying before it had even started

my 'friend' (ahem) sitting next to me punched me in the ribs and hissed- "aaah, for fuckssake, Precious"- see am a bit of liability, iykwim, and so no-one wants to even sit next to me

You need to blub yourself sick. Go on, you know you want to.

It doesn't get any easier, either, hanaflower

...someone posted on here a while ago, on another Blubber Thread, that you should just force your tongue onto the roof of your mouth and keep it there.

It does work up to a point- but if you're watching something reeeeally sweet it just makes you make strange muffled honking noises

YABU and you know it. My dd's toptip for not crying is to open your eyes really wide. I have tried it but just look a bit scary really.

go and blub - my BF blubs at EVERYTHING (but still goes )

I´m a muffled honker!

YABU Go and blub, be proud of your crying!

I'm a serial sobber since I had DS, the first 2 notes of any given Christmas type tune (including on adverts has been known to set me off as does the cheesey elevator type music in shopping Centres - DP just loves Christmas shopping with me!)

You know you want to, but take heart we'll all be doing it.

Good luck with the Home Ed as well, I really admire anyone taking that on.
xMad

Go and cry till your mascara is running down your cheeks in globby black rivulets...

Go shopping!

You have done your bit - get their dad to go. The kids still have a loving parent watching them. It is not the law it has to be you

You have earned some shopping time

I am crying reading the thread....that's how pathetic I am..just reading about little boys with holes in their trousers singing solos...sob sob...I can't go on..

I would have cried if I had seen my daughter in hers in fact I cried because she was off ill and too ill to go (pathetic weepy mother here!). YANBU but you might regret not going afterwards.

YANBU - your DC won't be unsupported, they'll have Dad there. Tbh I don't think that when they're older you'll look back with regret over missing this single event but with pride at what your children will have achieved thanks to you, as a HE mum, and how much better their skills are than they would have otherwise been.

My 2 are at school - at the moment - but I have HE'd in the past and have little doubt that I will do again, AND I'm the mum-in-tears-at-the-nativity type, so I think I know how you might feel.

Good luck with the HE, the sky's the limit, enjoy.

God, I do love it on here. And I am so glad there are other soppy parents out there (yesterday I bought The Snowman in HMV for the kids to watch when they break up and cried in the queue just thinking about it)

(it melts in the end )

I am going to be pragmatic about it and agree with you, Cirrhosis. My dcs are going to have enough of me in the coming months hohoho- so I reckon it will be nice for their dad to have a bit of input...

thanks everyone for your comments. Specially about the HE. You can guess I'm feeling a bit fragile at the moment- really, really positive, excited and full of ideas- but a bit...well, you know...