My DH works very hard, or at least this is his propaganda.
He goes out for drinks often. We have two DDs of four and five months.
The issue is, he goes out and does not tell me, then arrives home when he feels like it. Rarely answers his phone, and if he does tell me when he is coming home rarely sticks to it.
He does not seem to get that although he is often networking, that I am stuck at home with a breastfed baby, who feeds most of the evening and needs to be held when not feeding, who does not go to bed until 10.30pm. His actions mean I get no break, and feel incredibly isolated. I am so angry with him. He thinks I am being unreasonable. I think that he acting like a petulant teenager, being totally inconsiderate.
I am not even saying that he should not go out, just want him to tell me when he is going to come home, so that I have an idea when I might get a little respite. I do not think that this is unreasonable. I do ask him not to go out for days in a row, but this week he is out tonight and tomorrow night. He has told me he will be leaving at 7pm tonight, but last week he said he would leave a 'do' at 8pm but then left at 9.30 meaning that I got no respite whatsoever and did not know where he was into the bargain as he arrived home absolutely out of his head at 11.30. Oh and by the way on many of these occasions I cook him dinner that he then does not eat.
No matter what I say, and I am totally explicit about the impact of his behaviour on me, the more I tell him the more he seems to do it, he is like a ruddy teenager testing his boundaries. Then the next day obviously I carry the can again as he gets over his hangover.