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to now feel DP is/was unreasonable with his F1 jolly?

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GreenMonkies · 13/12/2009 17:40

DP is an F1 freak, I am fine with this, I like it too, but not as much as him. He goes off on jollies a few times a year, generally to Silverstone etc, camping with his dad, brother and nephew and has a great time and all is well.

He is currently on his way home from a Karting jolly in Munich. He went with two people he knows via Twitter, he'd never met them before, and they have been racing against one or more F1 drivers all weekend. He left the house at about 8 on Thursday morning and will arrive home about 8ish tonight.

Would it be peevish of me to be pissed off with how long he's been away?

Don't get me wrong, I don't mind him going, I just mind that he's been gone for 4 days, leaving me with two seasonally hyper girls (6 & 3.5). He was so taken up with what he was doing he didn't do any tidying on Wednesday when he was at home, instead he went shopping for a new suitcase (because the rucksacks we have wouldn't do ) and left me trying to scurry around getting the place tidy enough for the cleaner to be able to see the surfaces and floor on Thursday afternoon, before I went to work on Thursday morning. He was so vague (not unusual) that when I asked him initially what time he was leaving on Thursday he said 10am, so I assumed he would take DD1 to school. No. His flight from Manchester was at 10, so I had to run around like loon getting both kids ready and drop her off at breakfast club, all at the last minute, whilst he focused entirely on getting himself ready and out the door.

Or am I just jealous that he seems to be able to bugger off on a whim whilst I am left at home with the kids.....?

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skidoodle · 13/12/2009 20:21

Wow, I'm so glad my life isn't easier when my husband isn't around.

Relying on your partner for help and support isn't weakness, it's an important part of the partnership.

Feeling tired after four days of looking after children by yourself is a good deal less self indulgent than feeling tired because you've been travelling back from a nice weekend away having fun all the time.

JjandtheBean · 13/12/2009 20:50

Yanbu!

but then we all just follow the poor sod, haha, no he loves it really, we all like and lump one anothers interests, we are just miserable apart!

GreenMonkies · 14/12/2009 09:21

hf128219, no thanks!! My brother is in the army, and it's hard enough when he is in one of those places, I can't imagine how horrible it must be when it is your DH/DP.

Skidoodle, thank you, I think that sums up how I feel exactly.

And just to report, all is well now. We were both to tired to talk about anything much last night, but have had a good chat this morning, and we have reached a new understanding regarding little holidays !

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Maleeka · 14/12/2009 10:45

Yeah but skidoodle, its 4 days, just 4 days.
I'd cope just fine with 4 days on my own with the kids. The house wouldnt fall apart, the kids would even be up, dressed and still taken to school!

I guess we gonna have to agree to disagree on this one, and GM i'm pleased to hear that you have sorted this out with your OH, did you get your wine in the end?

sprogger · 14/12/2009 11:00

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WorkingItOutAsIGo · 14/12/2009 19:56

Yes GM, we need to know whether you got your wine?

GreenMonkies · 14/12/2009 20:09

I am drinking it as I type...... (I was too tired to argue/bully him/go for it myself last night)

You have a point Sprogger, I didn't say I couldn't cope, I can, but it's bloody fucking hard work, and not made easier by the knowledge that you are doing it all alone because the other person who is (allegedly) responsible for all of this is off having a lark about with Adrian Sutil and a load of Go-Karts!!

I mean, he regularly works nights, his shifts often fall on weekends and I am just fine looking after the kids etc all by my self. I was just a bit ed at how I felt last night.

He's hoping to go to Spain for an F1 event in February, we will negotiate.......

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GreenMonkies · 14/12/2009 20:09

Oh look, the festive smileys are out!

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upahill · 14/12/2009 21:59

Hi Greenmonkies Have you thought about making any plans with your girlfriends?

Me and about 8 mates got to Malmaisson about twice a year which is good fun. We dress up and treat our selves to fancy cocktails and ater order room service which is always fun.

Some of us go to Prague/ Berlin/Vienna or Krakow about twice a year as well. Really cheap and good laugh.
I'd get negotioning now if I was you!!!

skidoodle · 14/12/2009 22:01

Well said sprogger GreenMonkies glad you sorted it out when you weren't so tired

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