To be pissed off with my cleaner for buying me Anti-Wrinkle cream?

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Yes, anti-wrinkle cream for Christmas. Is she trying to tell me something?

NanaNina - very presumptious, aren't you?

I thought of a Spa Break for her. Good idea?

its ok
hf is a wind up wank**

Charming. This is very serious. Do I need botox? Do I treat her to a spa break?

Yes, a spa break would be a lovely idea for her, although I think you shold make it for 2 people, as she may get lonely going on her own.

She is so considerate to give you gifts you won't sneer at, rather than cheep tat from wookies

I mean Woollies...if they were still open of course.

hf, you don't need botox, you jsut need to smile more.

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Ok - a spa break it is then. Budget?

give her one of those things to file rough skin off her hooves.

and a tweezers

That would be mean. I was thinking (aside from a spa break) would she like s car valet?

NO! No car valet...she will be most offended!

And jsut go for what ever it costs for a ouple of people to go to the nearest luxury spa for a short break. Just pay what is required, this isn't something you can (should) budget about.

You think so? She is so proud of her cleaning - I thought it would give her a break.

Maybe she's trying to tell you that worrying about the way she piles books up on the coffee table will give you wrinkles?

My (now sadly departed BIL) bought me Anti Flake leg cream last year.

All nicely wrapped in a Harvey Nicks box but even so, I could have rammed it down his throat.

My cleaner always buys us a bottle of wine which I gratefully receive as it is so sweet of her,. And we buy her a monster box of diabetic chocolate.

How much do you pay her?? She sounds very generous. Is she your mother?

I would treat her to a spa day, preferably on her day off rather than the day she cleans for you as you wouldn't want to be paying her as well.

I wasn't thinking of a spa day - more a weekend in a hotel. Something like the Mandarin Oriental. Or the Grove.

If you are serious, I'd say she might be embarrassed by a overly generous present.

She might rather have a pay-rise.

I also think you are being over sensitive to the present issue-just be glad she gave you something.

If you spend too much she will feel beholden and it will make her gift to you seem paltry.

This is the thing - she had been going on for ages about what to buy dd for Christmas. I said 'nothing'. I eventually said 'maybe a book'. And now she's gone to town!

I am so confused!

Talk straight- tell her there is simply no need to buy gifts for you - any of you- and if she really must then nothing more than a £fiver- (that's what the Queen says.)

You have no option but to accpet gratefully any current gifts,and yes, reciprocate, but not to the extent that it fuels her desire to buy you more and more again.

But hf doesn't pay her, she is a "perk", or a neccessity, which ever way you look at it.

She will not be beholden if you buy her a spa break, she will think she is apreciated.

LS - it is not a perk! I pay her.

What have I missed- she is a "perk"???