if you say you will lend you actually will when i need it......

[hurrydownthechimneytonight]

Ok am 34 weeks pregnant on Monday and have been promised a few items by my sister to 'borrow', infact when I have actually bought anything myself I have been faced with nasty comments and an attitude such as 'I would have lent you that!'. This is my 1st baby and we are very grateful for her kind offers but its starting to annoy me now...

Early in the pregnancy she offered to lend me legs/base for the moses basket and a hypnobirthing cd to prepare me for the birth. I have been asking for these items for a good month now and keep getting excuses, the biggest one being when your 2 weeks before he is due I will give to you then.... But I dont want to wait, I am trying to make asure we have eveything ready and want to start preparing myself for the labour. I spoke with her last night and when I said i had free a sensor thing for babies bed she went mental at me telling me I didnt need one of those etc etc. I had to calmly tell her this is my baby and I will get what I feel I need.

I have now suggested that if she can not lend the items to me shortly to let me know as I will buy them. AIBU or not??

Thanks!! I know I will get honest replies so thought id ask.

otterinaskoda, that i could completely understbnad for the moses basket stand but for a CD which prepares you for the birth???

OP she sounds like a control freak, go and buy the CD yourself and listen to it!

re: the moses basket legs it wouldnt hurt if you got these closer to the birth surely, and you use them for so little a time it does seem silly buying them - dd was in hers for 4 weeks before she nearly knocked it over on the stand and we had to place it on the floor LOL, then inside her cot

My dd came 3 weeks early, and she was my first so you ANBU to want to be prepared in advance espeically with the hypno birthing CD

otter... for what reason then, if not superstition?

surely that is just nerve racking for anyone you are giving too, not knowing if and when things are coming? why offer in the first place?

hurry,, i agree with what everyone else has said, good luck with the birth and try not to have nightmares about bananas

FGS, it's not like she's actually using the stuff is it?

I just posted half a dozen books off to my sis in USA, cos I know they'll come in useful for the weaning etc in a couple of months, cost me £10 by sea... but I know they'll be a useful resourse, and they are too heavy for her to take back with her in her luggage this christmas, I'd rather she had the weight allowance for all the gifts she's going to get.

Otherwise, pretty much all the stuff I no longer need is at my mums, so she can use it if she would like to.

YANBU, I can't bear rushing around last minute, it's nice to have the basics covered in good time for the birth.

oh well looks like I was right, the comment I said has been deleted and nothing has been said.... Do I now call and ask whats going on???? Maybe she is on here and knows I am me as my family do tend to try and follow me around online...

Now what the hell do I do? Grrrr see what I mean about controlling!

Do not bother asking her again. You have asked enough and she is just being a pain (I hope she is reading this and seeing how others agree). Just go and get whatever it is you need.

Following you around on the net? Do they really have nothing better to do!? Sounds a bit loony to me , poor you though!

Borrowing things for babies is a minefield fraught with potential problems, from breaking the darn things, to muddling up who gave you what (keep a list!!!), to getting banana stains on bibs (as been mentioned). And that's just with normal people. Your sister sounds high-maintenance.
Steer clear.

thanks ladies! brunette as for following me round on the net yes they do, they follow me on games I play down to sites i regularly use like this one, i try not to let them see what I do online, its got so bad I now have quit various games as they have ruined it by making it competitive and annoying for me. I cant even log into msn without getting bugged.

Im used to it though! I have a very odd family and I know it. Luckily I would have only borrowed those 2 items and she got back to me late last night saying yes thats fine, I have no idea if that means I can have it now or not but she has said yes.......

My top borrowing tip is to photograph each bundle of things along with a name on a piece of paper for your reference. Anything that has a mark or hole in return it immediately or mention it to owner or photograph damage with date.

I can see a problem with borrowing baby things from you sis. You said that she has a 1 year old and what could happen is that you will both have a 2nd child at the same time so you would still need to buy everything anyway in the future if you both needed stuff at the same time.