to expect DH to remember birthdays?

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My DH seems to have a complete mental block when it comes to birthdays. He doesn't even remember his own mums (I have to choose, write and post the card).
Do I just accept this or is it just downright rude?

My DH remembers his own mums birthday, that is going a bit far to not remember that! But with other dates and stuff, I just accept that I am 'his diary' as he calls me. I'm the organised one so I just get on with it. I wouldn't chose, write and post the card though, I would remind him of it and get him to do it himself.

The thing is, I know he wouldn't bother. The last time he got his dad a birthday card it was one of those "Happy 90th" cards (his dad is only 60).
I was so embarrassed and wouldn't sign it!

IT just isn't important to many men for some reason.
Frankly if women stopped doing birthdays and Christmas the retail industry would be in a right state.

I think it's fine for him to forget other people's - as long as he doesn't celebrate his own.....

his own is Christmas Eve - so very hard to forget!!

90 card when his dad was 60? Is he deliberately being a pain in the ass! I would be tempted to not bother on his behalf. Get a card from you and not put his name on it. lol. I suppose you can't really do that, but if he doesn't bother then its not from him is it?

It´s awful that he doesn´t remember!
I often get the card if he asks & post it after he´s written it though as I have more time than him.
I never have to remind him though.

ok so maybe you/he won't exactly forget his birthday then.....but personally, I'd be saying "oh, I didn't get you anything this year as I know you're not one for bothering with birthdays"

but then, I am a mean old bag

he hee, he does like to be a bit of a pain. If I nag him to get a card he gets some warped sense of pleasure from buying inappropriate ones. For his sister's 21st he got an ITNG card with "I am 2" badge and wrote a "1" next to it in black marker pen.
On that occasion, I DID buy her a separate card just from me.

My experience is that men are generally awful with birthdays etc. I used to buy my younger brother a diary or calendar every year with all the family birthdays written in it, and how old the people were, and it was still hit and miss as to whether he actually checked it and got a card organised. My husband is not much better and half the time has no idea how old family members are (ie, mum/dad!!!) even when I remind him we need to send a card!! As Katisha says above, if it were left to men, the card industry in this country would be well and truly down the pan.

Oh yeah, if I ask my DH how old anyone in his family is, he looks at me as if I have asked him to find proof that there is a god. Men in general can be quite crap with things like this. Can't believe what he did for his sisters 21st!!! Thats just weird. Surely that takes more effort that buying one with 21 on.

yep, it's a perverse kind of humour