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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Warning - this has swearing & is long!

13 replies

mummysontheedge · 12/12/2009 04:24

AIBU to want to throw icy cold water over sleeping DP because he is a twat?! It's crap-o'clock in the morning and after being woken by DD because she needed the potty, tried to go back to sleep but druken woman outside window, demanding "WHO WAS THAT FUCKIN BIRD!" from her boyfriend prevented it. I thought I could hear the boiler running, so got up to check why as I had most definatly turned the heating off. What did I find?? The heating was still on and an angry red light was flashing at me. Now this may not seem like a big deal to most people, 'switch it off and go back to bed' I hear you cry, but we have a pre-payment meter and the red light tells me there will be no heat OR hot water in the morning because that wank-master didn't turn it off! Why do we have a pre-pay meter? Because a certain DP who was supposed to be paying the gas bill wasn't and didn't tell me, and it was only when I found a gas bill for over £600 did I have any idea. I got in touch with gas people to sort it out and the only way I could afford to pay it off was by meter. A couple of weeks before I found the bill I had found us a lovely flat to move into(we don't have a garden & me,DD & cats would like one) and had viewed it twice, borrowed money from family to pay £200 holding & referance fee and had been approved so was set to start packing. The day before 'bill gate' DP calmly informed me that we where in rent arrears, so probably shouldn't move. There are no words to describe my rage at that statment so I will once again say Twatfuckinwankstaincockknob! - sorry thats quite a lot of swearing . There is alot more that has gone on but I don't have the energy right now.
So AIBU?

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MaskedYurter1 · 12/12/2009 04:27

Do it. He sounds a little like the twat i live with.

Will yhou comment on my thread please?

mummysontheedge · 12/12/2009 04:29

Bucket of iced water on stand by, I'll come over to yours

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SofiaAmes · 12/12/2009 05:31

I sure hope your dp has some redeeming qualities.
My dh is useless at paying bills, but since he's quite good at lots of other things, I have taken over all bill/money/organization required things in our family and leave him to do the things he's good at so I don't end up resenting him because i do all the money stuff.

mummysontheedge · 12/12/2009 05:57

Your lucky Sofia, can we swap?
I think DP has some good qualities, but as I'm sitting in a cold house I'm struggling to bring any to mind....
oh wait, he does go and get me chocolate/crisps in all weathers as long as there is a shop open - do you think that's enough

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diddl · 12/12/2009 09:30

I´ll happily throw the water for you!

Looks like you have to take over the bills-and turning the heating off when you go to bed!

(I thought all heating could be timed)

diddl · 12/12/2009 09:31

That should have been a

HowTheGibbonStoleChristmas · 12/12/2009 09:33

Poor you

What was the rent/gas money being spent on if not the bills?

sarah293 · 12/12/2009 10:02

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Mandy1966 · 12/12/2009 10:41

That one reason why all our bills are by SO or DD, so he doesnt forget!!

mummysontheedge · 12/12/2009 12:59

I switched it off before I went to bed, but he must have switched it back on while he was playin fecking computer games, then forgot to turn off, thanks for the offer diddl, maybe if I give you his work address you can take him by surprise

Think the money was pissed up the wall on computer games, weed(are you allowed to say that on here?Oh well just did)and anything his little heart desired,but to be honest Howthegibbon, I have never really got a straight answer not sure he even knows really
Riven - not married, but have been together for over ten years, I ask myself the same thing most days though which is quite sad
Mandy1966 - they were on D/D but he didn't have any money in account, so it just got bounced around
I now pay everything that I can afford to and quiz him each month on the things that he pays, don't want to be demanding to see statments every month but feel I have no other choice. I'm not sure if he can/will change
was fired by anger last night/this morning, but now just feel really tired, fed up and sad
OK i've given my self a shake, back to the day. Thanks for replying ladies

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FabIsVeryFestive · 12/12/2009 13:18

Do you want another 10 months like this, never mind years?

You are not his mother...

Mandy1966 · 12/12/2009 13:41

Sorry to hear that

A friend of mines husband got in to debt for over £15,000, hid it from her, until a baliff came round whilst he was out one day.
She took away his cards, reads all bank statements etc and now 3yrs later gives him an allowance. He didnt like it belive me, it was either that or she said she would divorce him..

mummysontheedge · 12/12/2009 16:44

Oh my god Mandy1966, having a baliff on her doorstep must have been awful
Think your right Fab, I want a partner not another child and the thought of having to give him an allowance like Mandy friend fills me with horror

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