My daughter is 5 years old and loves farm animals and tractors, she also prefers to play with boys. She is very happy and loving but isn't really intersested in dolls, or pink dresses etc. She likes what ever is comfortable to climb in.
I was very femenin as a little girl and loved dolls, fairys etc.
I spoke to my Dad on the phone about christmas pressies and he asked what my DD would like. I said she'd probubly like a blue toy car like mine or the Ice age DVD.
He then said he'd seen a lovely doll, I told him that she isn't really in to dolls as she's a bit of a tom boy, jokily. He then said that I should start to encourage her to like more femanin things he said because after all, a tom boy is only another term for a "junior lesbian". He said it in a very jokie way, but that's not the point. I think I replied something like "Well, I wouldn't care if she was, I love her". I couldn't think of anything better to say unfortunatly.
I do feel a bit sad that he sees her that way and thinks she needs to be changed. I think she's perfect.