To leave DD tantruming at the top of the stairs, all night if she carries on??

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She is safe, she is four, she is a little bugger!!!

She orders my DP around left right and centre - just now she insisted on DP carrying her down the stairs, he has hurt his knee so really dint want to - so she has kicked off. She is of course perfectly capable of walking herslef down the stairs.

My DP is really really bad at giving in to DD, she is his little princess and she is more than a tad spoilt because of it.

So she is pretty much in a state of "OMG i can't believe it" but he is standing his ground and i think he is doing the right thing - she really rules him.

We havent shouted or anything, apart from to yell up the stairs that we are both down here waiting to play if she wants to come down - she is currently kicking and screaming upstairs, shouting "ive got no one to look after me" I'm expecting SS round at any minute

Are we being mean??

Defo not being mean, sounds like you're doing the right thing, she'll soon get tired when she sees she's not getting her own way. Good luck

I'd leave her to it.

No! The mean thing is to make a brat who no one will like!

As she´s safe YANBU.

Although I would say if her father usually gives in, it´s hard for her if this is one of the few times he´s told her no-so she´s not entirely to blame!

shudders at the prospect of all this to come soon from my 3 month old

yanbu

I do laugh at all the mumsnet posts on kids tantrumming, I will never have that as I only foster older children but I just find it so funny the thought of a tiny little person trying to make all the adults do what they want.

she is gradually coming down the stairs one by one, but the stubborn little mare is refusing to budge!! I ALMOST feel sorry for her!!

Wooohooo!! we won She gave in, after coming down the stairs and getting in the cupboard under the stairs She is now sat on dads lap who is blissfully snoring away and she is watching chuggington - and verily, peace was restored!

YANBU, did exactly the same thing with my 3yo a few days ago, he wanted me to carry him up the stairs (!!!) when he knows full well mummy has some poorly bones and I never EVER lift him (I had help when he was a baby as I'm unable to lift anything and he's been walking everywhere since he's been able to -I have no idea what got into his head).

1h45mins that took! I completely ignored him. At the end of it he climbed up the stairs came with his arms outstretched for a cuddle and said "I love you aaalllll the way to the stars mummy". He was the happiest and best behaved boy for the rest of the evening!

Just do what you're doing, you might get a lovely cuddle...

sorry, I missed your last post. Congrats

I do enjoy a good tantrum, been ages since DS had a proper hissy fit. We used to give him a commentary on how we felt it was going until he got really pissed off and went slamming into his room.

They are just so funny the way they get all crazy about something totally insignificant.

oh phew, it's not just my DD then!

I refuse point blank to ever give in to a tantrum. My DS is only 22 months but he has started to have tantrums. We are starting as we mean to go on and we find that they blow over very quickly. As soon as he is done we sit and play with him. So no YANBU, you did the right thing

do you know, we had quite a breakthrough this evening - she went on for nearly an hour and in the end came and sat with DP, saying how she dint like me? WTF?? Its not me she was having the set too with!

Anyway, when DP went in the kitchen i sat with her and had a cuddle. We then played lego for AGES, and she played really lovely, no bossing around, no stropping like she is prone to do, and she said "i really like playing lego with you mummy", i was all emotional

I definately put it down to DPs refusal to give in (a first)

The breakthrough is - DP commented on it too!! Maybe he gets it!! being too soft with DD is doing her no favours

I did this with DD when she was younger..tantrums got nothing, not even my attention.

People say how well behaved she is...well, yes she is NOW...they should have seen her aged 2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

YANBU