to think hand-me-downs from SIL are pretty insulting?

[winnybella]

She has just given us some stuff. Few old boys' clothes (we have dd) and few baby dishes.
Fine for the clothes, even though v.v. used, because I don't really like waste and they can be a back-up ones for dd.
BUT she gave us a sippy cup used, from the looks of it, by her 3 children: it's all scratched and the spout has lost its original colour from all the teeth marks. Spoon, plastic and inlaid with rubber (I guess), that is coming off as if it was playdoh, basically falling apart from old age.
Now, we never asked them for anything and we are not expecting them to buy us anything. They are v.well off, we are not, but not poor.
I DO appreciate the thought, am not wasteful etc., but am wondering what exactly was she thinking?
I don't think any charity would have accepted the stuff, it's so damaged and I wouldn't dream of giving it to anyone.
So, am I being ungrateful(am prepared that it may be the case), or is it a bit insulting?

I think it is pointless starting a thread like this with half a story. You start of with AIBU people give opinions on what you have told us then half way through you say there are circumstances that made you feel annoyed but you won't go there. How on earth can we offer an impartial opinion with comments bolted on after? The thread becomes pointless then and a complete waste of time. This is quite common on MN and quite frankly a PITA

She probably didn't look closely at the stuff she was passing on to you, she was just having a clear out. Wouldn't take this as an insult.

If she is like me she will be sentimental about anything used by her DC's, I feel particularly soppy about anything that was used a lot and hate throwing them in the bin, have been known to fish things back out again! giving them away feels less final (have kept all my bowls and sippy cups in case of visiting toddlers though).

I understand why you would be a bit insulted or by those things being passed on, its not nice really - it should be in useable good condition or don't give anything. Who is really going to want a very well used and bitten sippy cup?! Perhaps she just feels very guilty throwing things in the bin, so tries to offload it somehow so she doesn't feel wasteful, but she should have thrown it in the bin if its that bad, does she really think you will use it?