to not want to buy DB and SIL vouchers for Christmas?

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I asked DB for ideas of what to get SIL for Christmas. He said she'd like some department store vouchers so she can buy some new clothes. I told him that, as a general rule, I prefer to buy a present rather than give vouchers. He said he'd check with her about what she wants. He also said he was going to ask for the same.

Should I just bite the bullet and give them that? It just seems so joyless. I like taking the time to think and about and choose gifts. It also means you can get more for less by being canny and getting sale stuff or shopping around. With vouchers, the amount is there in black and white and I feel I might as well hand over hard cash. It is the easier option though, but that isn't what love should be about to me.

They did the whole money towards their honeymoon thing last year. Now DB is a very generous soul, in all respects, particularly with his time. SIL however, I have a bee in my bonnet about, in protective bossy big sister stylee, as she can be a bit of princess IMO. One Christmas for exmple, my brother did a treasure hunt for her with 30 presents, mostly little. She on the other hand only got him a book about how to write a groom speech for their wedding the following summer. Whoopee doo.

So, AIBU and should I just get them the vouchers as they asked? TO be fair, I know my brother would get them for me if the shoe was on the other foot.

If you don't want to buy vouchers, don't. If "princess" doesn't like it you can suggest she gives them back.

Buy them an Oxfam voucher for a goat or something similar. Some good will come of it at least.
If she was saving up for something special I would agree, but she probs just wants to go sales shopping.

YANBU however, I would still get them the vouchers. I would also ask for vouchers back either this or next year and then the following year suggest that you just don't just don't bother .

Thanks, all.

I like the goat idea

In fact SIL did sponser an animal in Africa for my brother once as his main Christmas present (and no, he hadn't asked for that). So it would be funny to see if she enjoyed receiving as well giving that type of gift.

I think I will just get the vouchers. I am starting to get my Christmas stress-head on, so taking the path of least resistance is becoming appealing!

why would you want to clutter up their home with something they don't want? Just get the vouchers and make things easy for yourself.

I know this never goes down well on mumsnet but I have also asked people for vouchers this year. I just find it really sad that my mil and dh's family obviously spend good money on things I don't want.

That makes me sound like a princess I'm sure, but every year my mil spends about 20 quid on a 'glass ornament' for me. I have three young children and hate dusting. Also, while she thinks glass handbags are lovely, they are sadly just not my cup of tea. She is a lovely person and I can't tell her I hate them as she would be horrified, so this year when she asked what I wanted I asked for book vouchers. And the truth is this would be a real treat for me.

Sorry.

I often ask for vouchers from people because we don't have any spare money for me to buy clothes or things I would really like.
so I think yabu as its a real treat for me to recieve vouchers to go and choose something I love

Why did you ask? You asked, they told you. At this point it everyone should be happy.

If you didn't want to get them something they wanted, there was no point in asking.

Morloth, you're right, I did ask!

To be fair though, my brother asked me first - and I couldn't think of him - so I felt it was polite to ask in return.

I do really enjoy receiving vouchers myself, it's just the asking for them I'm not so keen on.

But I shall wind my neck in and buy them