to want to stop xmas presents for nieces?

[nbee84]

They are my dh's brother's children. We see them rarely, maybe once every 2 or 3 years for a family event (like a golden wedding anniversary or a christening etc). Dh is not close to his brother and bil wife does not like travelling (they live about 3 hours drive away from rest of family) The girls are now 18, 21 and 22 - so not children anymore, but they are still our nieces.

We have 2 children - 15 and 21. They still get a present from their aunt and uncle, but wouldn't miss it if they didn't. I was going to phone sil and suggest that maybe it was time to stop buying, after all they are adults now. I said to dh that if they had phoned us to suggest it we wouldn't have been offended.

But I chickened out cos I felt that it was to awkward to phone someone that I only see every couple of years to suggest this.

AIBU? They are our family. And if I'm not, how do I go about it?

Just suggest token gifts and get them something very little but well thought out. Those are the best kind of presents anyway.

YANBU, my niece and nephew have both turned 18 this year and I won't be buying them presents from now on. They are adults now. DH and I only buy for children and our respective parents. Why don't you send them a card saying that your children don't need anything this year and maybe suggest you both make a small donation to a charity instead of presents from now on?

It is the norm within my family (and DH's as far as I am aware) that children's present stop at 18y, bar a 21st birthday present. No Christmas presents beyond then apart from parents, siblings and grandparents.