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Original poster

to think sharing should be allowed in kindergarten

25 replies

cybercinders · 09/12/2009 19:13

for feck sack

it is only a snack,

we even put a name on said part of snack that ds wanted to share

Im fuming

I can do nothing right in this womans eyes ..

thank you
goes off to fume quietly

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Original poster
cybercinders · 09/12/2009 21:19

................

yum

sharing is over rated

blows a raspberry and munches on said ....

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raspberryknickers · 09/12/2009 21:22

I don't understand - please explain....

ScroogeMacDog · 09/12/2009 21:47
Hmm
notanumber · 09/12/2009 22:01

Maybe it's an allergy issue cybercinders?

Or perhaps it's policy so that Sophie doesn't bring in her ceral bar to share with Elliott which results in Saira crying because she's been left out?

I very much doubt that it's becuae "this woman" (kindergarten teacher?) is looking for ways to annoy you.

thedollshouse · 09/12/2009 22:13

We do not allow children to share food at the nursery where I work. There are children there with life-threatening allergies. Until they are old enough to be 100% sure that what they are eating is safe for them it is not worth the risk.

dilemma456 · 09/12/2009 22:23

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sunnydelight · 10/12/2009 02:15

A strictly enforced no sharing policy is much less hassle than getting a three page list of ingredients you cannot include in snacks/lunchboxes! I'm guessing you're not the parent of a child with a life-threatening allergy.

differentnameforthis · 10/12/2009 02:28

Allergies?

Original poster
cybercinders · 10/12/2009 06:36

sorry

he is allowed to share when this teacher is not there...
and the mum of the little boy he shares with is happy with it too

just this one teacher who happens to run the class ,,

Okay it may seem trival but it is a big deal to ds

thank you for the replies

off to worry about bigger things

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MarioandLuigi · 10/12/2009 07:53

But if he thinks its okay to share with one boy he might not understand he cant share with all children.

YABU and the teacher very sensible IMO (as the mother of a boy with severe peanut allergy)

Original poster
cybercinders · 10/12/2009 09:53

he would share with the

Whole class ...there is only Nine of them ..

we will hold a party in jan and see what happens

I have worked in nursery schools

and im sorry this teacher has found so many faults with my ds

that I give up.....

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2rebecca · 10/12/2009 10:06

Sounds like you're making an issue over nothing. Just give your kid a snack for him to eat and let other mums do the same.
Agree kids can share food if they wish when older and not being watched like hawks and more aware of allergies etc. Seems a daft thing to fume about, it isn't exactly disadvantaging your son. If he has too much snack he can just leave a bit. Do you not trust the other boy's mum to feed him or something?

Original poster
cybercinders · 10/12/2009 10:23

he is six
we are not in the Uk

have plenty of other things to worry about

but to ds it is a pain ....
to a six year old it is a big thing
and yes the other boy has a snack and he can not share either

simply curiuos as if it was an overal rule fine

was just taken me away from being worried about bigger fish so to speak

thank you all

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Smithagain · 10/12/2009 10:24

The teacher is right - sharing is a bad idea because the children don't know about allergies and could put another child in danger.

The other teachers, who are letting them share, need to be more careful.

Sorry!

Original poster
cybercinders · 10/12/2009 10:27

but they bake cakes on their birthdays in the kindergarten

and share it out with the whole school

tis bizare ....

oh well ......

Im wrong.....

excepts defeat

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2rebecca · 10/12/2009 10:40

Why is not being able to share your snack a big thing for a 6 year old?
Sounds like the school's inconsistency is the main problem here although I'd favour a no sharing snacks with young children policy.
If a cake is baked in the class then the teacher knows who has allergies in the class and can bake stuff accordingly.
I'd be telling your son that he can share other experiences with his friend and often with food you just eat your own, after all that's what most adults do and playing it down rather than increasing how important the snack thing is by making an issue of it.
Stop giving him shareable snacks and the problem will vanish.

SplitPea · 10/12/2009 10:48

I work in a kindergarten and the children can't share snacks due to allergies.

You can't have one rule for some children and another rule for other children so it is easier and fairer on everyone to say that each child may only eat their own snack.

If a child brings in cakes or sweets for a birthday etc. then the treats are sent home with each child and then their parents can decide whether or not to let their child have the treat. This does sometimes cause problems as some children are allowed to eat the treats as they are leaving whilst others are told to wait until after lunch/dinner. We don't want to ban them bringing treats in though.

SplitPea · 10/12/2009 10:50

Just wondering, but how would you feel if your son had a serious allergy and all the other children were sharing snacks but your son couldn't join in and had to just sit and watch the others?

Original poster
cybercinders · 10/12/2009 10:54

sorry

I understand the allergy situation

but the kindergarten

bake what ever the children wish for on their birthdays

and eat it there

from fish and chips to wurst semmel...to sachertorte

we are never told when there is going to be a birthday ...

how to you stop a child snap a biscuit in two

....

going now

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Pitchounette · 10/12/2009 11:02

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Pitchounette · 10/12/2009 11:03

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thedollshouse · 10/12/2009 11:06

I don't see the big deal.

I bet you are one of those people like my friend who insists on us choosing dishes that we both like so we can share.

Original poster
cybercinders · 10/12/2009 12:58

maybe

Austrians

just find sharing harder ...

am amazed that no one asked exactly what his snack was .....

they are yummy

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FluffyPumpkins · 10/12/2009 13:06

OK

what was the snack?

Original poster
cybercinders · 10/12/2009 13:12

home made shortbread

maybe I should package it up

and give it to the teachers .....

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