to be p*ssed off with DH on his birthday?

[louloulouise]

Monday he left the back dr unlocked when he went to work which I discovered when I got in from work in the afternoon (area is bad for burglary atm and has druggies and various unsavouries hanging about at any given time).

Today I get home to find ironing board and iron still out (fair do's, sometimes he's running late in the morning getting DD to school and him to work, I don't mind sorting this stuff out from time to time). However the fecking iron was plugged in and had been on all morning, not great for leccy bill and the cats could have knocked it onto themselves or the new floor (boisterous as they are), or it could have overheated and burst into flames.

I rang DH at work and had a go at him. I feel a bit bad as it's his birthday but stuff like this can't keep happening - he's left the back door unlocked and physically ajar on more than one occasion - it's a miracle we've not been cleared out, xmas pressies in the house etc! Not to mentioned invalid home insurance!

I'm actually astonished your dh does his own ironing!

He sounds like me I'm afraid, I'm forever forgetting to lock the kitchen door, left the iron on for 12 hours the other day etc.

Did you need to have a go at him? I think it could have waited till he got home and then you could have just mentioned it. I am assuming your DH is an adult and doesn't appreciate being scolded?

He's used to it

You old nagbag.

Phone him back and make friends.

hi louloulouise , I am totally and 100 per cent with you what adult does that? , mine will switch it off and leave in the kitchen until I pick a nervous breakdown and scream at him or drop his dirty laundry in the room and go to work I dont wait until he gets home because I might have a seizure by the time he does

YANBU to be p!ssed off-but phoning at work?

Bit OTT imo!

to be honest its like having an extra kid you dont want

why not phone him at work mine thinks when he gets home it should be heaven and should not be told anything desagreable

I was going to mention him leaving his dirty undies and clothes scattered up the stairs most mornings but I would have been getting a little petty .

I am a hopeless nagbag, tis true - I will make amends when he comes home on his break at half 4 (he's got to work 'til 7 today boo!)

Didn't phone him on his work number - just on his mobile while he was having dinner.

I would have left it until he got home.

There´s nothing he could do about it at work!

Completely reasonable to talk to him about it,
Completely reasonable for him to be doing his own ironing!
But since you keep on telling him and he keeps on forgetting things, maybe some othe approach is needed?
I'm not sure what, though!

Get him to make him a checklist for before he leaves the house
That says
"Everything locked, turned off and has the job been finished properly?"
and
"What Would LouLouLouise say?"

It does sound as if a checklist might be useful!

Especially re the leaving the back door ajar/unlocked!

I think this strikes a chord with me as I am a bit forgetful. I am the one likely to lose my keys, my glasses, forget to turn things off, forget to lock the door. And yes, those things are annoying and stupid. But I don't do it on purpose and I am quite capable of kicking myself - don't need my beloved spouse to do it for me!

And he gets things wrong too. Regularly. And I don't tell him off either.

Unless you are perfect I think it's a bit off to make a huge fuss.

checklist? who are we talking about ? whose name is on the house a child ?birthday or not it happens all the time and after 10 years beleive me you will set yourself on fire with the checklist

nobody is perfect we just want to be able to avoid unnecessary insurance claims because the house caught fire or getting it ransacked because we forgot to lock the door

I am a bit like you lou, I get mad when he does stuff like this. My DH does loads of things which sound really petty, but when youve politely reminded him a hundred times can you please not do such-and-such you feel you've got nowhere left to go other than get furious.
Sympathies. You should make up though, after all we all make mistakes and it is his birthday

yeah make him a big dinner and the whole schbang and tell yourself you are starting a new life tomorrow

'Tis fine, DH managed to get his last 3 hours off work to work on the checklist and has gone to the gym so will be getting a takeaway and watching harry potter, lunchtime unpleasantness forgotten by all.

Yes, I do have a tendency to overreact when DH does something 'wrong' but realise afterward that I can be a bit of a hag about these things. Thank goodness he takes it with a pinch of salt

Can't do strikeouts!!