to be snivelling like a maladjusted 2yo because dh is not here?

[Greensleeves]

AIBU, and pathetic, I know

he has gone to Madrid for work, we only had a few days notice and I am just not being adult about it at all

he will be back about midnight on Friday

I have got a coldy-type thing, sore throat and chest infection and general crap feeling

and I have got to do school run, rush for school pick-up after work, cart ds1 to ds2's Judo lesson and then walk all the way home and back again to pick him up because the pub I normally wait in doesn't allow children

trivial crap but I just want to bury my head, I have been really miserable lately anyway and even going to work is a mammoth effort

and we were going to go to the boys' Christingle together on Friday morning and now I will have to go on my own

and the boys will be really crotchety and difficult for me because they worship their Daddy

tell me I am being ridiculous

Harsh feelingold!! I think it is tough to begin with if you are used to someone being around and helping w stuff, particularly if they go off at short notice. Eventually you do develop coping strategies and get into a routine that works for you, but it generally doesn't happen overnight.

Greensleeves I do think you can make your life easier straight away by dropping non-essential stuff, into which bracket the judo probably falls......

YANBU! I hate it when DH has to go away, and generally run off to my parents or to go and stay with my grandma! DS is only 16mo though so very portable, I'm aware I need to get a grip before he starts school as I won't be able to trot about with him then!

If you are really ill then don't go to work- have you got anti biotics for the chest infection? can you get signed off work?

Forget judo- ask yourself, in 20 years' time will it matter that my DSs missed 1 judo lesson when I was feeling ill?

Stay in, keep warm it's almost Thursday and he'll be back in 48 hours! Chin up woman!

My dh is also away for a week, back friday. I've been left home alone with a bunch of dodgy builders, no kitchen and with a giant hole in the back of the house.

I've been feeding us all on chicken nuggets in front of the telly, doing lots of Ikea trips and letting the kids sleep in my bed. It's quite nice actually, except dd takes up more room than dh, despite the fact she's only ten, and snores louder.

Also toying with the idea of not bothering with ds's karate on Thursday after school........

Keep thinking - how do single mums cope? To all you single mums out there - I salute you!

D'you want mine?

Don't know whether you are being ridiculous or not about DH but having a cold makes you feel rubbish at the best of times.

Miss out judo.

And you're at work !

Go home.

Respect to single mothers!

When my DH goes away with work I go to pieces too. He went to Germany the other week (only for 2 nights). I had to get up while it was still pitch black and before DD woke up so that I could quickly take the dog out for a wee, then do the nursery run, face the rush hour traffic to work, nursery run again, dinner, another dog walk, cleaning washing up bathtime, storytime bedtime, etc etc.

YANBU

Again, respect to single mothers who do it everyday!!

Fair point from FeelingOld, the idea of being a single parent scares the living shit out of me.

part of the reason for this particular display of female helplessness is the short notice - we have everything set up between us so that things run - not smoothly exactly, but they run

am at home for a few minutes in between judo drop-off and pick-up, just thought I would pop in and absorb a bit of moral fibre from you lot en passant!

It is hard but it is easier when you're used to it. My dh goes away for 7 months and every couple of months is away for 1 week to 2 weeks.

GOD YABU!! Thats kinda my life par for the cause, single mum, working, 2 DD's, 8 and 2, spend most of my life running from one thing to another! Oh and a nasty XH who often cancels his childcare day or pickups last minute to "punish" me!

Oh and I did all that for about 5 weeks not realising I had pneumonia but feeling like I was about to die!

Get a grip!