To think my mum is being ridiculous? (another FC presents thread)

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I was just chatting to my mum on the phone and prompted by a thread on here. She has told DS 2.5 that FC will be leaving presents at her house for him. I said okay but can there be a stocking from FC and some from you? She said no, all presents are from FC, that's what happened when i was little (Yes both sets of grandparent did say this but i can't very well ask DH's family to say FC had brought all the gifts they've bought can i??)

I pointed out that when we go round to MIL's, her and all of DH family will be there and all presents will be from them.

She's really upset about this and has fallen out with me and said all her present will be from her and step dad now, all because i reckon that's confusing and i don't want ds to think they've not got him anything when the otherside of the family have spent a fortune (which they will) Honestly is that not utterly ridiculous?? I mean he's too young to care now anyway but WTF?

FWIW (not meaning to complicate things) Santa does make 2 trips for some DC - I know a little boy who has a special delivery on Christmas Eve at his Dad's house, followed by a standard delivery option Christmas morning at home (Mum's house).

LOL at Boxing Day Elf. Why did he never visit me as a child?

I agree. Bastard Elf. I always used to check my stocking again on Boxing Day, just in case .

Oh i know stealth, that makes me laugh because my step niece (mum's dh's dd's) has her dad, her dad's mum, dad's dad, her gd, step dad's dad, step dad's mum, her mum's dad, mum's mum.

so 2 houses for parents and 6 grandparent house, so by mum mother's standards 8 stops for santa.

Imagine the outrage of other dcs at school. "But the Boxing Day Elf visits x! Why doesn't he come here mummy?"

PMSL at Boxing Day Elf!!! IMO the stockings are done by the parents - it's fun for mummy and daddy to choose things for a stocking - that is what being a parent is about. Although we stay home for xmas I would be if the person we were stayingwith tried to do stockings for my children. As parents we have certain stocking traditions ie there is always a tube of chocolates nad always a net of snowmen etc I personally cannot imagine why someone other than the parents would think they could take over and take away the joy that is making up your childs christmas stocking!?

5Foot5

really? if children stay at your house you are FC and the parents can go whistle?
and you get adults stocking?

and this is why we will never travel for actual xmas again....

My parents have also done presents from FC for my DCs. We normally have FC presents at home on Christmas Day, visit ILs in the afternoon and are given presents from them, and then go to my parents Boxing Day, where the DCs open the gifts that FC left there.
We have also told them that we (and my parents) send money to FC to help buy presents so avoiding why don't we give presents. The Dcs have enjoyed this and it has saved the flat Boxing Day feeling.
They are now 10 and 13 and still enjoy their 2 bites at the Christmas cherry!
They phone my parents on Christmas morning and get on update on whether there has been a delivery or not.
It is annoying when parents try to take over BUT children soon become cynical teenagers and so you can't blame GPs for wanting a share in the magic. (You can of course blame GPs if they try emotional blackmail/arguing/ other unpleasant behaviour to achieve this).