To have brought DD very little for christmas this year?

[dilemma456]

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Ah well that is different, if she thought it was great until she knew the actual monetary cost then she does have strange priorities and is very rude to ask (which is why I thought you had mentioned it, I can't believe she asked!).

DD is only 3 months and I plan to wrap up a toy I've bought from eBay. I might get her a Lamaze doll but she's too young to know what's going on and as the first grandchild, she'll be spoilt rotten by the grandparents

However, I have bought her a Roald Dahl boxset so I can read them and am looking out for Enid Blyton books!

I usually buy clothes they need anyway, stuff like crayons, books - much of it from cheapo shops. It seems to be the big pile of presents that's the attraction, rather than the actual contents!

You could get her a clock/picture/duvet set for her new room?

Not much else to say, except YANBU!

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Really don't understand why people spend £100 plus on presents for small children. They really don't need it nor will they appreciate it.
Last year we got my 5 year old ds some playmobil, cost maybe £35. When anyone asked him what he got for Xmas he only told them about the £2.99 flashing dinosaur he got, it was his favourite thing and he was so chuffed with it.
I think people who spend really large amounts of money are doing it as some kind of evidence to themselves/others that they love their children/are a good parent because look how much I've spent!! It's a really sad sign of how materialistic our society is.
What's important to children is not how many expensive presents they get but whether they are loved and have a happy and relaxed family and home at Christmas.

HotOtter, having expensive presents and being loved and having a happy and relaxed family and home at Christmas are not mutually exclusive.

Saying that people who spend large amounts of money are trying to prove they love their children or that they are good parents is a very judgmental sweeping statement.

HotOtter i agree with everything you have said

OP, YANBU. Whether you spend £2.50, £25 or £2,500 on your DD is irrelevant. As long as she has something to open on the Day and the magic of Father Christmas and the nativity story (if you are christian/believe of course etc etc disclaimer and no offence and so on and so forth) then the monetary value of any gift is rendered totally irrelevant - she already has more than many many children: a loving mother and a safe and happy home.

your friend sounds like a twat tbh, sorry but she obviously has ishoos. quite aside from being a nosey cow! fancy asking someone how much they have spent

As long as there is lots of paper to rip open then there is no problem! We have got some of DS1's old toys from the loft and re-wrapped them for DS2 - I think we've spent less than a tenner on him!!

Sounds like you're saving your money for more important things - good for you!

Sounds like your friend is trying to have some sort of competition with you...I would let her get on with it if I were you!

dilemma, I was exactly like that before we moved!

Hope it all goes well.

Jeez, no yanbu!

Your friend sounds a bit at passing comment on the amount you spend on her! How very dare she! Tis v insensitive and downright rude!

Small children can be overwhelmed with gifts. When DD was 4 or 5 she got narked with Santa because he bought her more than the 2 things on her list!

Now she's 7 she wants a ipod and heelys!

I feel sorry for the DC of your friend, as christmas for their Mother is a financial exchange.