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AIBU?

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to not put my Christmas Tree up til the 23rd Dec.

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GetOrfMoiLand · 08/12/2009 11:55

DD's birthday is on 14th so everything Christmas is on hold until after that.

I am not going to put the Chjristmas tree up after work, I am away weekend of 19th and 20th, so 23rd is first free day.

We are having a real one so leaving it for as long as poss reduces needle shedding. Plus we have 2 young cats who will probably view it as a climbing frame so the later the better.

Proposing putting the tree up so late has caused howls of rebellion and I am being treated as if I am mix of Scrooge/Cinderella's Wicked Stepmother/the crim mother out of the Goonies.

FFS

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MitchyInge · 08/12/2009 15:24

we do ours Christmas Eve, or at earliest the last Saturday before Christmas

it is much more exciting at the last minute

PrincessToadstool · 08/12/2009 15:33

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GrendelsMum · 08/12/2009 15:57

My family always used to put the tree up on Christmas Eve - it was an absolutely lovely way to spend the day, and really got the spirit of Christmas going. We'd decorate it and by the time we'd finished, it would be time for Christmas eve meal. I'd insist on doing this now, but we now buy a tree which we lend to the church for a special pre-Christmas service and then take home again, so our tree now arrives much earlier!

hanababylecter · 08/12/2009 16:04

YANBU if i had my way the tree would go up on the 11th day after christmas I hate the whole decorationg thing, honestly what is the point?
call me whatever i really don't care

Pikelit · 08/12/2009 16:53

YANBU.

DS2's birthday is 13 December. Even now, as a "grown-up", he won't tolerate signs of Christmas coming into the house before his birthday. We have always put our decorations up on Christmas Eve and far from being considered "miserable", our collected offspring think it is cool and makes for a really magical Christmas morning.

IfYouCouldWouldYou · 08/12/2009 19:14

What would people do for birthdays on Christmas eve/day?? would be a tad annoying not putting tree up because it's someones birthday....i think christmas birthdays are great. Mine is early January and as a kid it wouldn't feel like my birthday unless the tree and decs were still up. I even used to get my presents wrapped in leftover christmas paper...i loved it!! it made it more special

Bigbadmummy · 08/12/2009 21:02

Growing up our tree never went up until Christmas Eve.

It was a fabulous tradition and I hate that Christmas is now creeping into November.

Twelfth night is counted from Christmas Eve so it should be that day anyway

nickytwotimes · 08/12/2009 21:05

Yanbu.
Both dh and I have December birthdays and like to wait till they are past before starting the proper Christmas celebrations.
I have iced me cake though.

tethersend · 08/12/2009 21:10

YANBU.

DP is in 2ft in front of me and thinks I'm ordering ours now.

But here I am.

allaboutme · 08/12/2009 21:11

I am genuinly surprised at the December bithday people not wanting decs up till after their birthdays...
Its my birthday on Dec 11th and I always insist on it looking lovely and festive in time for then. Usually put the tree up the weekend before so I can enjoy it.
I love christmas and the festive feeling of having the tree up and it feels extra nice to have it there just in time for my birthday.
Obviously its a personal thing but I Cant understand the other view at all!

delphinedownunder · 09/12/2009 03:42

I am another Christmas Eve tree person, 23rd December if i must. I like it to look new and special and fresh on Christmas Day - also it's hot here so it wilts if it goes up early. i always remember when i was a kid my best friend was German and their family put up 2 trees on Christmas Eve - one in the dining room and one in the living room (lovely big old Victorian house) and covered the dining room one with real candles in little holders to be lit at teatime on Christmas Eve before they swapped presents. There house was just magical - although me friend's mum used to shoo us all out at about 4 o'clock so that they could do their family thing. They also had a beautiful carved nativity scene, also candle lit- just lovely.

4everhopeful · 09/12/2009 05:28

My bf ds is 6 on thurs, she also has 15wk dd, she worked full time before dd but always puts her tree up on the 1st! Doesnt distract from her ds birthday at all, only distracts if u let it! Dont let it become some big 'issue' in ur house or then ur dd will feel bad.. christmas is all around, im sure the school/high st/shops/grandparents/friends etc all have their trees & decs up, too wierd to pretend its not happenin til after birthday, my bf ds is a ball of excitement in december looking forward to both.. Half the fun of christmas, & birthdays, is the whole build up!

nooka · 09/12/2009 06:00

I grew up with all decorations going up on Christmas Eve, and it was great fun bringing the tree in, getting greenery from the woods and putting up all the decorations, and then it woudl stay up until Epiphany when my parents would generally have a party. The tree would actually arrive a week or two before hand, and so it was exciting to see it outside. We also had lots of Advent traditions, moving the crib figures towards the stables, having a candle on the stairs to pray to, using the same advent calenders each year, celebrating each Advent Sunday etc. But now as an adult visiting my parents the house seems very plain and undecorated before Christmas, and just not very Christmassy at all, and I want to stretch things out. So we usually will do our tree on the second weekend of December (this year we did it on Monday, as our neighbour took us out to chop one down on Sunday).

I don't think that there is anything wrong with holding off if you all want to, but if it makes your family unhappy and your main reason is because you want to do it right, then I think that's a bit rubbish really. Why don't you ask your dd if she minds it going up early, she may think it would be nice to have the tree for her birthday, and modern trees really don't shed half as much as the older types. I think it's a bit sad that you don't let your family decorate - mine did it when I was at work and it was lovely to come home to. It doesn't take very long either (unless your tree is mammoth sized!)

Meglet · 09/12/2009 07:32

Yanbu. Mine is going up on the 23rd. The dc's are only going to trash it and I get fed up with it if it's up sooner.

Even before I had dc's it went up a day or so before xmas.

NotAnotherNewNappy · 09/12/2009 09:33

I don't understand the keeping birthday and xmas separate rule. My b'day is the 1st of Dec and my mum would try to get the decorations up by then (ridiculously early, I know but is the start of advent) so that my b'day kicked off the official count down. YABU. I love having a december b'day, b'day=start of party time.

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