to think FFS!

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Ok... I'll give you a few background details:

BIL is 18. He has never committed to anything (due to his mother). She let him stay home from school for half of yr 10 and the whole of yr11 (therefore not getting any GCSEs). He has had 3 jobs (the longest lasted 2 weeks) and has quit them all and has quit college after starting 3 times.

MIL panders to his every whim and it is getting very irritating. Tonight she has rung and told DH that he has applied for yet another job (after starting the last job last Wednesday and deciding it's not for him). She pays for his petrol, car insurance and anything else he demands. She does everything for him and seems terrified she will "lose" him (like she "lost" DH to me!) She is on benefits and working at the same time and giving him the extra money.

The thing that really got my goat is that she asked DH if he would take BIL's telephone interview for him!!!

FFS!

DH has declined saying that he really doesn't know a lot about telesales and gave her lots of advice about things he should say.

So, AIBU to want to give her just a little slap and inform her that's she's ruining a nice lad?

YANBU to think it.

YABU to say anything.

YADBU to slap her!

YANBU to think FFS.

Even just a little slap?
Go on. Please?
It's my Christmas wish!

Compromise - slap BIL?!

Sounds exactly like my BIL

But he is 40

I want to slap the pair of them!

so... YANBU, and could you please give mine a slap while you're there?

Your DH was right for not agreeing to do the interview. What a thing to ask him. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about the way she is with him. As long as you turn down ridiculous requests, I would just get on with your life and ignore them.

Why do you want to slap her and not him ?
Why did he miss half of y10 and all of Y11 ?Surely the authorities would have been following this up ?

How is she ruining a nice lad? It's his fault too. Most 15-year-olds wouldn't quite school and do nothing even if they were allowed. He's clearly not very bright, is he?

at asking someone else to do the telephone interview. That is just utterly immoral. And Pathetic.

Give them all a slap i say.

she doesn't sound like much of a role model if she's working while claiming benefits that's fraud.

It's the slappiest time of year!

lol @ wukter

Madame & tinsel - good points, though I think there was a point where he just thought he would push and push and see what he could get away with and it worked. He had a home tutor for 2 hours a week so she could "fuck with the authorities" (her words, not mine).
It started with having a stomach complaint that, I believe, was genuine for 2-3 weeks. This turned into months and then years of hospital appointments, scans, tests, etc. and nothing was ever found until one day he was miraculously cured! (Oh, and this stomach problem was obviously reallllllly bad, even though he gained approx. 3-4 stone in that time!)

Borderslass - I know. Many a time have I had the "report a benefits cheat" form completed and been too chicken to send it off!

If the hospital were convinced enough to run all those tests , I don't think you can reaaly blame his mother foir being taken in though

i agree his role model is bad but hes 18,a grown man!he needs to take responsiblity for himself.

yanbu to think ffs.but a tad to want to give her a slap.

If it makes you feel better, I don't think YABU for wanting to give her a slap. I think he deserves one as well.

Maybe start saying things like "so, are you planning on supporting BIL forever? What happens after you're gone? Do you really want an unemployed 40 year old male, with no life skills, hanging around your house?"