to think it rude to sit on X-mas dinner invite and hope for better offer?

[nearlybeans]

Person in question asked three weeks ago. I would like to know if they intend to come. I suspect they are waiting to see what offers come in and then decide.

I am impatient, and a little bit irritated, but AIBU?

Ring up and ask whether they are coming or not?

Well, I'd be phoning for a definate response and/or asking what the dilema is ... retracting my invite politely if, as you suspect they are pending another offer coming in.
It's getting late in the day for not knowing how many to cater for exactly ... I'd be fed up and not wanting them coming any more if it seemed they didn't want to like this ... Hmmm

I have invited a friend for Xmas dinner, she has accepted with excitement, but I fully expect her to cancel on the day. (She has an eating disorder.) I'll just be delighted if she makes it; any leftovers are factored into my shopping anyway. (I always buy/cook too much, so I don't have to shop/cook for the next couple of days... )

Ooh I thought it was going to be you who was sitting on the invite and I was going to say definitely YABU.

Same goes for your invitee

Me too Butterfly! I was thinking "surely you wouldnt admit this, even on MN!

I read this as '...rude to sit on Xmas dinner table...'!

Maybe there's no cushions and the OP is sitting on the Xmas dinner invite instead?

Actually sitting on my invitation (deliberatly, of course,) would be very rude indeed, and I would certainly not be U to think so!

Thank you for your replies. I think I will let it slide a little longer; one person does not make much difference to the planning, after all. If they were upfront about what they were up to, I really would not mind; if they can have more fun elsewhere, meet new people etc. good luck to them! It is the silence that has irked, though, and I feel that, about that, IANBU.