DH late home AGAIN.

[boundarybabe]

I know IABU, it's not his fault but FFS, I am so SICK of him being late. He commutes so he's not home till gone 7 most days, so when he has to work late it means he isn't home til half 7 or 8. Plus he is reliant on trains which are so unreliable it isn't even funny. I am fed up of waiting until 8 to have dinner (don't want to have mine earlier as I actually like sitting down and eating with him). I often go to bed quite early ATM as DS is ill and getting up a lot in the night so it feels like we have no evening together. He also gets invited to work related evening events at least once a week. Last week I had planned something for the evening and then something came up at his work so I had to cancel (actually, I'm wasn't being unreasonable to be cross on that occasion, but that's a whole other thread!). It makes it bloody impossible to commit to anything. I would love to do an evening class but they all start before he gets home.

So ANNOYED!!

Gahh.

I feel a lot better about my DH coming home late from work since I decided to stop 'waiting' for him to come home. I used to be watching the clock between 6 and 7, thinking 'come home and save me' after a particularly bad day with the DCs! ANd then he would phone at 7 and say he was still trying to finish something! I would nearly burst a blood vessel!
Then DH had a scare re. redundancy and I realised how important his job is to our way of life (ie. it allows me to work p/t and spend time with DCs and he does really enjoy it). Since then I have felt a lot better about it, and have been able to stop going on at him about him being late.

Going against the grain here, but isn't that part and parcel of the job?

We have a bit of a reversal of your situation in that dh works in an office and is always home by 6, I work in telly and am usually home after 9 or 10pm quite often work overnight or other anti social hours. It's not nice but it's part and parcel of the job.

Would you prefer he got a lower paid job that was more local, then just to keep the home you are in, he would come in from work and you would have to go out to work in the evening just to make ends meet.

Eating dinner at 8.30 by choice sounds like hell on earth, I will pray for you tonight.

Wow - was only here for a bit of a moan (what this forum's for, no?). Bitter much??

BB - come on, you have to expect the good and the bad.

My DH worked in London Mon - Fri for 8 months, had to go back 1 week after DS2 was born. It totally sucked but I got on with it, I had to and in the end I liked it. We made a big effort at the weekend and I made the most of my time in the week, mates over for a drink, movies, books.

He's at home all the time now due to redundancy and he sees how hard the DC's are, not that he had no idea before, but all the household that goes with it.

I think you need to 'stop waiting around' for him and seeing yourself at a 'loose end' as you will give off your pissed off feeling to him and he's working hard too. Work together not against him.

boundarybabe

not bitter at all, if that's all you have to worry about count yourself lucky.

I've always worked long hours, to improve or maintain my lot, why not try having a bit of awareness of others before you moan about your so called problem.