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or is 540 am early?

39 replies

girlsyearapart · 07/12/2009 12:25

Dd2 (15 mo) wakes up early 99% of the time. Also wakes in the night at least a few times a week.

DH works night a lot so I get up with the dds if they wake at night/in the morning nearly every day.

This morning dd2 was crying at about 9am and DH said put her to bed. I said no as:

  1. she'll only have 1 sleep a day so if I put her to bed then she'll be a total nightmare by about 5pm.

  2. we were going to a music class at 10.

  3. If I hang her out till later she sleeps at the same time as dd1 and I get a bit of a break.

I said 'If she didn't wake up so sodding early she wouldn't be tired already'

He replied 'She didn't get up early'

I said 'Yes at 5.40am'

He replied '5.40 isn't early'

Since when is 540 not early??

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diddl · 07/12/2009 12:27

It stops being early when you have a baby!

LisaD1 · 07/12/2009 12:28

Oh dear, I think it depends on your own body clock/routine as to what you conside early. I get up between 5.15 and 5.30am every weekday and my hubby gets up at 7.30ish, he calls that early yet it's not early to me as I've already been up for 2 hours!

I'm sure "normal" people think 5.40am is very early though!

grendel · 07/12/2009 12:29

Basically any time before 6.00am is 'night-time' and therefore TOO EARLY.

Oblomov · 07/12/2009 12:52

No, 5.40 is early. Everyone knows that. Dh is an earlybird. Both my boys wake up at 6am.
But I KNOW that 5.40 is early. How can anyone dispute this ?

GetOrfMoiLand · 07/12/2009 12:56

I agree that anything before 6am feels like the middle of the night, especially in the dark winter months. And I get up at 5.20 every morning. It's bloody horrible and I hate it - I live for the weekends when I can have a lie in til 9.30 (woohoo)

ImSoNotTelling · 07/12/2009 12:59

5.40 AM is so early it's almost late

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girlsyearapart · 07/12/2009 13:04

Thanks. I'm not debating the fact that I'm the one who has to get up with her, or that having children means you have to get up early but bit peeved that DH can try to convince me 540 is in fact a perfectly reasonable time to wake up?!

If it is why was he up at 9am then? That's positively lunchtime by those standards. And he didn't even work last night.

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lorelilee · 07/12/2009 13:06

I'm with IMSO, 5.40 is so early it's the middle of the night! Am curious about the sleep pattern though - DS2 is 15 months and gets up at 6.30am, goes for a 45 min sleep @ 9am, another @ 3pm and then a 'quickie' at @ 5.30pm before going to bed at 7pm.

Morloth · 07/12/2009 13:08

I don't think anything smaller than an 8, should even come in an am. Yuck, very early by our house standards!

SerenityNowAKABleh · 07/12/2009 13:09

5:40 is ridiculously early. I remember (back in my student days) being a bit shocked to realise that there was an 8 in the morning! It wasn't just a night-time thing. Ah, those were the days

sleepy123 · 07/12/2009 13:11

Of course its early. Does he mean it's not any early than normal? so not early for her.

TinselianAstra · 07/12/2009 13:11

6 onwards is early but morning. Anything starting with 5 is night time.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 07/12/2009 13:16

lorelilee
DS is 15mo and gets up around 7-7.30, has one sleep around midday and bed at 7.30. I wish he would have 3!

BikeRunSki · 07/12/2009 13:24

5.40 is early!
My HV says that waking up before 6am is unacceptable, and that we should leave our DCs to witter/cry/shout until that time.
I would like to point out that my HV has no children of her own.

CardyMow · 07/12/2009 13:49

I didn't realise that ANYTHING before 7am counted as morning??? Even as babies, my DC's were 'trained' very early on that mummy before 7am is not nice, and is generally quite horrid....from the age of 18 months, each of mine learnt not to wake me up before 7...anything before that is a time to go to bed at, so YANBU, 5.40am is a bedtime, not a getting up time...

CardyMow · 07/12/2009 13:52

I used to leave a dvd in the machine for my DS1 when he was younger, now he plays playstation...(he's always been an early riser, even at 7 1/2 he gets up at 5.30am/6am), so he just had to press the on button, a bottle on the chest of drawers, and a plate of biscuits. Have an alarm clock in their room that goes off at 7, then and only then can they come in to mummy's room...

CardyMow · 07/12/2009 13:54

Just for clarity, I used to leave a bottle for him, he gets his own drink now!

ClaraJo · 07/12/2009 14:14

Ugh - DS was awake for the 3rd time last night between 5-6, whimpering (controlled crying ). When he finally went off again he slept till 8.30. There was not a chance of my letting him think that 5.40 ish was time to get up! I think having to get up at 6.45 every morning is hideous, never mind an hour earlier.

Undercovamutha · 07/12/2009 14:23

5.40am is DEFINITELY early. TBH, I am genuinely pretty offended if I get woken up before 6.30, 7 ideally. DH finds it TOTALLY unacceptable to be woken up before 7 on the weekend, and the DCs do so at their own peril!

driedapricots · 07/12/2009 15:10

my dd has taken to waking around 5am every day for past 2 weeks...she trumped herself today with 4am!! it was dark for 4 hours before i left the house for work. what is that all about? i am now fading very quickly at work (not actually done any work as can't focus on anything for longer than 10 mins) should i just ignore the screaming when she wakes at this time?(i think i know the answer to that!) why has this happened when before it was a lovely 7pm to 7am pattern??!! shes 23 months

mummyflood · 07/12/2009 15:24

ahh well,she'll be a teenager one day, when anything before approx 11.30a.m. is still the middle of the night!! YANBU!!

NewBirdOnTheBlock · 07/12/2009 15:35

YANBU at all!!!!!!!!! Of couse 5.40 is early. Having kids does not automatically make it a nice time to get up. My dd is 20 months, has never slept through the night, never slept in past 6am and has not napped in the day since being 5 months old! TBH I don't think id know how to sleep if I were given the chance!

Poohbearsmom · 07/12/2009 15:43

It is too early but its all relative to what time she goes to bed at night? Most need between 10-12 hrs night time sleep. I would def treat a 5am wake up as a night time and re-settle the same way you would at 2 or 3am. I like to sleep in the morning so i let my boys stay up later in the evening and then we sleep longer in the morning, we used to always get up around 7 but im way happier when i start my day after 8

cumbria81 · 07/12/2009 16:36

I don't think it's that early, tbh. I am usually up at that time during the week to go running before work and have always done that.

I consider any time from 5:00am "morning" before that it's "night".

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girlsyearapart · 07/12/2009 17:35

Thanks.

Well he was saying it wasn't early- not by her standards just in general.

If we leave her to cry she screams the place down and wakes her sister up so I have both to contend with.

Lorilee- she goes to sleep at 7pm and wakes up about 530 usually. She will only sleep once in the day for a couple of hours at about 11-12 ish.

Cumbria- if I was waking up of my own free will to go for a run I may have a different opinion!

When they're teenagers I'll be waking them up. Revenge is sweet

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