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to think this mother needs to get a grip?

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VerityBrulee · 07/12/2009 11:48

dd started school in September in the equivalent of reception. She loves it - has made lots of friends, is coping well in the playground, loves phonics and is sounding out words all the time, etc. Most importantly to me, she goes to school happily every day and comes home with a smile on her face.

This morning I happened to be walking out at the same time as another mum from dd's class, and I asked how was her dd getting on as I know she had trouble settling in the beginning.

The converstaion went something like this:

Me: how is your dd
her: oh, we are very worried
me: oh no, what's wrong?
her: we are very worried about the academic standard of the work she is doing and we feel that her concentration is not as good as it was when she was in preschool
me: well the curriculum for this year is play based so she is learning in a different way than she did in her (very accademic) pre-school. Is she happy?
her: oh yes, she's perfectly happy but we are very worried about her standard. We are worried that the school isn't pushing her, and we spoke to a maths teacher at X school(one of the best known pushy private secondary schools in the country) and he said if they don't establish good habits now, it will be very hard to get the results in secondary school and get into a good university.
Me: she is only 4 years of age . Oh gosh there's X, I really need to talk to her

I feel so sorry for the little girl.

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GypsyMoth · 07/12/2009 11:49

first year of school...the mother will soon wise up

RealityIsHungover · 07/12/2009 11:50

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VerityBrulee · 07/12/2009 11:51

It is crazy isn't it?

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DisElfchanted3 · 07/12/2009 11:53

Oh FFS, the only thing that worries about about my DS in reception is that he might cut another 'obolong' out of his school jumper during craft time.

2shoes · 07/12/2009 11:54

sorry but your post made me snigger

Carrotfly · 07/12/2009 11:55

cripes !

OrmIrian · 07/12/2009 11:55
VerityBrulee · 07/12/2009 11:59

To be fair, this is her oldest child.

We have progress meetings with teachers this week, I was chatting to dd's teacher the other day, as I couldn't make it at my allocated time. She said, don't worry, she's doing fine, we can talk another time.

This mum told me she was going to discuss her worries with the teacher and she had made a lot of notes!

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StewieGriffinsMom · 07/12/2009 12:01

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racmac · 07/12/2009 12:08

I think she may be zebramummy on another thread

Metella · 07/12/2009 12:23

racmac!

TessTing · 07/12/2009 12:27

Suggest you give her the card of the "best" private psychiatrist who offers advice that if you don't start getting the right parenting habits right now, it will be very hard to cope in mainstream society later.

VerityBrulee · 07/12/2009 12:36

I wouldn't be surprised if they moved her. The mum is really uptight and precious. The school is very relaxed and liberal, that's why I drive 30 mins across the city to get to it.

I just can't see the mum being able to cope with the way they do things, which is a shame as it's an outstanding school. My older dc went to a very disciplinarian school initially, but it wasn't right for us and we moved them. Maybe I should suggest that school to her?

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Mishy1234 · 07/12/2009 12:38

This mum will soon chill out, but she does seem a bit over zealous!

I think this is such a problem in today's society. People feel under constant pressure to plan decades in advance and that going to uni is the only option.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 07/12/2009 12:41

racmac - no no, the concern here is Maths not Art!

ChilloHippi · 07/12/2009 12:55

Oh dear the poor teacher. That woman is going to make her life hell.

AngryFromManchester · 07/12/2009 13:01

loads of parents are like this though. I feel so sorry for this generation of youngsters who do not appear to be allowed to be children

Buda · 07/12/2009 13:22

Poor child. And poor teacher.

I had a similar conversation with a mum of a child in DS's class at the same age. She too was concerned that the children were not being pushed. I told her if my DS came home filthy dirty having had fun and looking forward to going back the next day then I was happy. She looked shocked and then asked me what words was DS getting to bring home. So I told her he was very uninterested. She said I should take the word sheets anyway and sit him down with them before letting him play!

She took her son out of the school. Poor kid.

loobylu3 · 07/12/2009 13:25

As Buda says- poor child and poor teacher. It sounds as if she will swap schools!

VerityBrulee · 07/12/2009 13:43

You are all right about the teacher, I'm sure she get an earful from this woman, which she doeesn't deserve as she is really good at her job. She has real empathy with the children and they all love her. I feel like warning her, but probably better to mind my own business!

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