for being upset with my Sister-In-Law

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Sorry for the "rant" girls but I really need to get this off my chest. My sister-in-law's behaviour is really upsetting me at the minute. I really, really want to be friends with her but it is so difficult when I find myself having to watch what I say!

She missed my 30th birthday weekend which she had known about for months in advance and gave me an excuse that she was going to be away that weekend and could not avoid it - I subsequently found out she had orchastrated that weekend away so that she didn't have to come to my party! At the time I was upset but I let it go, but just recently everything else just seems to be mounting up it.

She invites me round to her house just to find out what me and DH are up to so that she can moan about it to other people or get jealous - god knows why! She makes up excuses not to go to friend's parties which are not true and she has stopped inviting me to girls nights out which is quite upsetting.

AIBU to be upset by this or is it that she just does not like me and I should get over it?

she sounds like a right bitch - ignore her

she sounds like hard work

concentrate on the friends that want to spend time with you

just because you are family, it doesn't follow that you will all be friends

i am very lucky with my SILs

She sounds awful. Ignore her, and focus on the important and lovely people in your life.

Ignore her dude. Is she your DH's sister or your bro's wife?

My DH's sisters are a pair of spiteful twins who live simply to make points and hurt other people. It's been years since I let any of their words or actions bother me and I find it's better this way. I'm married to their bother, not them. Of course it helps that DH ignores their existance too.

Life's too short to get upset with unworthy individuals. Politely push her away bit by bit, you'll be feeling much better in a coupe of years'time, trust me

I think you do just have to forget any chance of being friends with her. You sound like you want to get on and I'd guess you're the sort of person who is friendly to all and would see a sister in law as someone you 'should' be friends with. But she seems to be giving the message loud and clear that she doesn't like you. For some reason - who knows, you'll never find out because she is clearly the sort of person who will never have the guts to actually speak up to you personally.

Personally, I would purchase a ten foot barge pole for the express purpose of not touching her with it! Steer clear!!

Thank you all for your comments, I was starting to think it was me being the crazy one. And yes, CirrhosisByTheSea I think i did just expect to be friends with her cos we are related. When I first moved to the area with my DH, she was nice to me but obviously it didn't last. I just like everyone to be nice and get on - fool!

I am going to take all of your advice and ignore her now I know I am legitimate in my feelings - easier said than done though to ignore someone who lives round the corner big sigh nevermind, I am sure as you say in a few years I'll have got over it!