more of a wwyt.

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My sons first birthday party yesterday (Sat). Nothing fancy jusy some close family and friends coming to our house. A close friend said that they wouldn't be able to attend as they were going away and wouldn't be here.
I've found out today that they're not going away till tomorrow (Mon).
I'm a bit why she felt she had to lie to me, rather than just saying that they would be busy getting ready to go or that they didn't want to come.
It just feels a little strange.
WWYT

How did you find out that they're not going away till Monday?

Just leave it. Maybe she will have a lot of stuff to do pre-going away but thought that would sound a bit feeble.

She prob just thought it was the kinder thing to say! try not to be hurt!

Go round with some b'thday cake and say, thought you might like a piece before you go away

baby parties are so shit though - i think i would have lied to save your feelings - not worth getting upset about.

I found out cos her dh has put it on facebook.
Unless they're not going away together!!

Thanks for the responses.
VinegarTinselTits - can't go round with cake, it was so yummy we've eaten it all
I'm not going to say anything to her, I just thought we were close enough for her not to have to lie to me. I'd rather she'd have said 'baby party's are shit, I'm not coming' than lie!
Maybe I'm reading too much into it. We moved house recently and she hasn't been in touch much since then. I love her dearly but she is very materialistic and I've heard through another friend that she is jealous of our new house.

I am often busy for a day or two prior to going away, especially if we are taking all 5 kids - but then again I would have just told my friend (if it was me) that we're away in a few days so I need to prepare for it.

Maybe she felt a bit awkward OR maybe they just changed their plans slightly.

Did she give a card?

I'm one of these people who can go away with a Dh and 2 DD's at a couple of hours notice...however I'm surrounded by people who clearly can't do that themselves as they assume we can't - my MIL in particular starts asking me 3 weeks before we go away if I've started packing etc...

I know some people who go into complete meltdown in the 2 days before going away. She didn't necessarily lie to you, stop thinking she did - she couldn't come because they were going away. Unless she said they actually were leaving on saturday or before then she didn't lie, she couldn't come because her time was constrained by things she needed to do because she was going away

Maybe their plans changed ? Sorry think you're being a bit precious and overthinking it.

Agree with custardo- baby parties really aren't everyone's cup of tea. She was probably trying to spare your feelings.

If its anything like our house, and many others, just cause their not going away till the day after doesn't mean she hasn't got loads to do, afterall my dh is useless with that sort of thing. She'd probably got it all planned, getting everyhting packed and read on sat and then you go and decide to ahve a party

Fruitysunshine - yes she did send a card, which was very nice of her. But I wouldn't have minded if she hadn't.
Thanks to everyone for responding, I'm not going to dwell on it anymore and I'll look forward to catching up with her when she returns and then I'll bore her to death with hundreds of baby party photos!!