not really asking AIBU, just need to vent...
our parenting approach is to encourage and support DCs to be the best they can be - but at a pragmatic level.
DD's friend and her DB are tutored & coached within the edge of their lives, no expense spared regardless of their actual ability.
I can understand that their parents just want them to have every opportunity to succeed.... but it comes at a cost financial, and psychological(friend does ok, but not brilliantly at said activities and is left thinking how much her parents have spent and yet she's still not the best).
From their perspective, they are absolutely doing the best for their kids. And from my perspective, I explain to our DD that I don't love her any less because I spend £100s, rather than £1000s on her. But it's tough from both a child's and an adult's view point. I know they have their way, we have ours. And I know they think we sell our DD short cos we will "only" spend £100s and not £1000s.... so 2 sides and DD generally quite grown up about it but difficult to stand by our principles when DD thinks we've let her down. Don't feel you have to answer, just thanks for listening.