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Early morning preschooler

43 replies

fusspot66 · 06/12/2009 08:57

AIBU to think that a child who goes to sleep at 7pm is doing very well to sleep till 7am. After this we hear the horrible shout 'Is it morning time?' Repeatedly. Till I go in with dp berating me for 'giving in to her & letting her dominate the house' I'm almost embarrassed at how well she sleeps compared to more exhausted friends. So I'm sorry to even ask the question. Really I'm asking Is He Being Unreasonable IHBU?

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doesntplaywellwithothers · 06/12/2009 09:01

Um...my two get up around 5:30...if we're lucky, 6. 7am is nothing to complain about, and if she's sleeping 12 hours, she's getting all she needs. DP needs to chill...

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fusspot66 · 06/12/2009 09:03

I try to get to bed by 11 so I'm ready for it, even at weekends, which is when the debate gets most heated. He comes up at 12.30 or even 1.30 so just isn't ready to start the day at 7am. It's maddening!

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rubyslippers · 06/12/2009 09:03

12 hours sleep

sounds spot on and am

he is being very unreasonable and unrealistic

justaboutisfatandtired · 06/12/2009 09:04

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fusspot66 · 06/12/2009 09:04

Thanks doesntplay, I'm hoping for several polite responses to show him how fortunate we are!

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doesntplaywellwithothers · 06/12/2009 09:05

His fault, then...if he doesn't want to go to bed to be ready for her in the morning, then he's being unreasonable. Sleeping late on weekends is for the childless!!!!!

dinkystinky · 06/12/2009 09:05

He's being unreasonable. My DS1 only ever sleeps 7 till 7 once in a blue moon when absolutely shattered/ill and hasnt slept all day - and he's nearly 4. Some kids are big sleepers and will go 7 till 7 - most arent and will be up from 4.40am onwards - in our house if we're not woken till 6.30 by either boy we count it as a good day...more often our days start just before 6,

dinkystinky · 06/12/2009 09:06

P.s. plenty of our friends take it in turns to have lie-ins at weekends - the only way you can with little ones in my experience - so may be worth thinking about. Though as we have 2 very active boys we need to do one on one marksmanship from when they get up...

doesntplaywellwithothers · 06/12/2009 09:07

Do you want some non-polite responses, too, if you want!

doesntplaywellwithothers · 06/12/2009 09:08

Do you want some non-polite responses, too?

frasersmummy · 06/12/2009 09:09

my 4.5 year old sleeps about 11 hours a night. He is in bed between 7pm and 8pm every night meaning he is up between 6am and 7am every morning

I have tried keeping him up later but by 8pm he is soo tired and grumpy its no fun for anyone

At least your dd stays in her room and shouts... my ds comes through and climbs on top of us ..giving us no choice but to respond

Some mornings I try taking him right back to bed but to be honest its never successful and by the time you have coaxed, moaned, been up and down 12 times you are just as well getting up and on with the day

Like you I always think there are people worse than us but doesnt stop me yearning for a long lie

WidowWadman · 06/12/2009 09:17

Let her stay up longer in the evenings and she'll probably sleep longer in the mornings

wonka · 06/12/2009 09:30

We take it in turns all boys awake between 6am and 7 so DH lets me sleep in Saturday and he gets Sunday

PrincessToadstool · 06/12/2009 09:40

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diddl · 06/12/2009 10:14

Doesn´t he need to get up for work anyway?

fernie3 · 06/12/2009 19:28

Mine get up at 6am go to bed at 6pm. Sounds perfect to me! 7am is a pretty reasonable time to wake up especially work days etc

Jamieandhismagictorch · 06/12/2009 19:32

HIBU. Mine both used to wake 6.30 at the latest (one of them still does (age 6). We had about 3 years of being woken at 5.30, pre-school.

Let her stay up longer in the evenings and she'll probably sleep longer in the mornings

Widow - tried that ... sadly never worked

allaboutme · 06/12/2009 19:37

Mine sleep 7 til 7 and I think I'm pretty lucky!
If your DH is not ready to start his day at 7am then he needs to go to bed earlier! (at least one day on the weekend if he gets up and lets you lie in.. the other he can stay up late and lie in himself)

mrsgboring · 06/12/2009 19:43

I got up at 4.30am this morning, which is not particularly unusual for us.

HIBU. Also early mornings with a young child are the best time - they are fresh and receptive.

7am is most definitely a lie in and your dp needs to get a grip.

hettie · 06/12/2009 19:44

he should thank his lucky stars that she isn't one of the many thousands of kids that wakes up pre 6am! (in our house anything with a 6 in is accepetable, 7 is great ta). You need to take it in turns to get up and if he wants mroe sleep he needs to go the bed earlier (this is coming from a reformed night owl- I would happily go to bed later than 11pm, but it's not very kid friendly so i have changed my sleeping patterns)

nickytwotimes · 06/12/2009 19:47

My 3 yr old usually sleeps till 6.30-7am, which I am very happy with.
Like most wee ones he has gone through phases of 5.30, 6am rises.
12 hours is ideal You get an evening and a night's sleep. I find keeping him up makes no odds and only results in him being grumpy.

Your dp is being an arsehole - sorry.

NightShoe · 06/12/2009 21:58

My preschooler has NEVER slept until 7am even when she has had the flu. Even when she has not gone to bed until 10.30pm. At the moment we bribe her to stay in her room until 6am and take turns on a weekend lie in. I work 12 hours night shifts twice a week on 5 hours sleep the next morning too.

Your DP doesn't know what crap sleep is.

dwpanxt · 06/12/2009 22:08

What an arse your DP is.

He doesn't know how lucky you all are having a good nights sleep. You should print out some of the poor sleeper threads for his illumination . Its his own fault that he doesnt get as much sleep as the rest of the household - maybe he thinks he is still single?

Its time you took turns in the early mornings. They dont last forever

rookiemater · 06/12/2009 22:12

Echo what everyone else says 7am is pretty good for a pre schooler. We used to have it made, DS slept in until well after 8pm, but over past few months has decided that 5.30am is rising time of choice.

You could try one of those special clocks, we have one, but have learnt from experience not to be too optimistic in the settings i.e. if you were particularly lucky you might get to lie in until 7.30 am at the weekends. But to be honest 7.00 am is ok, just take turns and tell him not to be such a twit.

carocaro · 06/12/2009 22:38

YABU totally and utterly!

BE GRATEFULL.

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