to want the family to listen to me?

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ok, I know many will say the actual event tonight is petty but its systematic of what generally happens...

I am responsible for paying the bills and all dd's come out of my accounts. Dh gives me housekeeping but any costs over the amount matched by me and dh I cover (another topic for another day....) anyway with regards Ro reality shows I say no to voting as its a waste of money. dh told ds (aged 10) and dss (aged 14) that they can vote tonight if they pay for it. I agreed but said to please use the sky red button rather than the land line as I want to keep an eye on these things and I have the sky option with a pin to prevent over spending etc.... The family totally ignored this even as I was repeating it to them...

Aibu to expect the family to actually listen to me?????

Why would they start listening tonight?

DSS in my opinion is probably old enought to have a mobile. He can vote with his credit if he pleases. It might be a good cost benefit excercise.

If he were my husband, then he wouldn't be my husband.

We don't have my money and his money. We just have our money.
We discuss parenting issues together so we make resonable judgements rather than making up rules in the heat of the moment.

If it's a regular occurance, then you need to decide not to be a doormat. If you have a problem with the phone bill, contact the company and cancel the account and get disconnected, presuming you have a mobile for emergencies.

If you husband doesn't know whether to treat you like a child or to behave like one himself then you need to decide what is acceptable to you and say it straight.

So you are being unreasonable from what I gather from your post.