To buy my mum a Zumba fitness DVD for christmas ?

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Hi, my mum is living in NZ at the moment. She's always been very overweight, but recently she's got bigger as is quit depressed about it. She's 5 foot 2 and 16 stone.
She used to love doing her old fitness video, which she'd had for about 25 years. (No joke) She now says she's boared of it (at last).
We were talking about the new Zumba craze the other day on the phone and she said it sounded really good.
Is it an appropriate christmas present though? I don't want her to think "Oh charming", she obveously thinks I need it".
I know that doing it would make her feel better about herself though, even if she didn't loose weight. She loves dancing.
I really don't want her to take it the wrong way, but I know she'd love it. I am a bit concerned about sending it though just because she's feeling down at the moment and I don't suppose she'd want to be reminded of her size on christmas day.
What do you think?

I do have to get ready to go out now, but I'll have a look later to see if anyone has posted. (Thank you, in advance to anyone who posts).

I think you could ask her if she wants it and you can arrange for it to be sent, but no - not as a christmas present

I'd lynch anyone who sent me such a present!

My parents gave me bathroom scales once for my birthday - I was so upset. Luckily my sister was with me and warned me not to open it in front of the friends we were with.

Don't give it to her on christmas day if she has issues already. Maybe if it comes up in conversation again, suggest she gets it for fun.

Please don't give her this for Christmas! It could be really upsetting. Christmas Day is not the time to remind anyone of their difficulties, and certainly I would be very hurt if someone gave this to me for Christmas.
I've been overweight for years and really struggle with it, and occasionally friends have made comments or given me 'well-meaning' gifts. It's always hurtful - I know I'm overweight and do not need reminding!

I would ask her if she would like you to get hold of a copy for her (as a continuation of your previous convo) but not as a Christmas present, no. Get her something lovely like jewellry or a good book or perfume, not something to remind her of her unhappiness.

Thank you everyone. I definatly won't send her the DVD then. I wouldn't want to upest her at christmas. I just thught it would be something to help her to feel better about herself, so maybe I'll ask her if she wants me to get it and send it to her, but after christmas. This is when she'll want it more, as her new years resolution is always without fail, to loose weight.
Thanks for posting, and for stoping me from posting the DVD.
I will think of something lovely to send. I want my gift to say "I love you", not "you need to loose weight".