to be brassed off with this woman

[worldgonemad72]

to cut a long story short my dd and her best friend have fallen out, they are now playing with different groups of kids, theres been a bit of name calling etc on both sides. the ex friends mum has now said my dd and friends has been picking on her dd and her friends, my dd denies this but ive had serious words with her anyway about how its not nice etc. I was pretty close to this woman and we're still amicable so ive asked her if she's spoken to the other parents involved, she hasn't, aibu to think she should of spoke to all involved, it feels like she's targeting my dd when it was a group thing. btw her dd is no angel but she thinks the sun shines out of her backside iykwim.

I would ignore it. Playground politics, children are always falling out over something or other and then friends again the next minute. Maybe she felt that you were the only parent she could speak to as you are friends.

It will probably all blow over soon enough.

All parents think the 'sun shines out of their kid's backside' as you put it,as you say your DD denies it and you believe her, right??

Sounds familier, my dd went through the same thing, my dd was accused of bullying.It went on for months, it was very obvious that my dd's friend was being asked every day what my dd had done.
In the end the whole family ended up ignoring us, they live opposite so it was awful.
I still don't know what was supposed to have happened other than my dd sat next to the wrong girl on the school bus!!!! and various other petty things.
Try to clear the air as its horrible having to see someone everyday knowing they can't stand you, won't speak to you, but youre not actually sure why.

TBH the sunshinesbrightly i believe that she's telling the truth when she says she hasn't been picking on her as such, but she has admitted there has been name calling, ignoring each other on both sides, her ex friend has said its all one way and she hasn't said or done anything which i dont believe. A similar incident happened a while ago with this girl, (my dd was not involved -i went in and saw the teacher ) apparently a boy had sat in the playground shelter and this girl and the 2 other friends she's now in with again started teasing this boy for sitting with girls, this carried on for over a week with the result that the boy refused to go school and his parents ended up coming up to the school to find out what was going on. The other 2 girls admitted what they had done but the ex friend denied everything even though the other 2 girls had told the teacher she was involved. Her mum refused to beleive her dd could be involved and actually took her out for a treat because of the upset it had caused her!
Anyway like ive said ive already had words with my dd about her behaviour.
I am going to try clear the air but as there is only 2 weeks left of school ive decided not to get too bothered by it. Im going back work at the beginning of jan so wont be doing the school run then. Thanks everyone for all your comments.

She probably spoke to you as you are "amicable" and would listen to her concerns rationally.

Little girls are generally absolutely horrid to each other when they fall out - tis just the way they are built! make it clear that you have spoken to your DD and ask her to report any further concerns she has to you.