To be [shock] and a bit grossed out to be honest, that my FIL is dating ...

[LuluR]

a 29 year old. My dh parents recently (beginning of this year) separated after 38 years of marriage and my FIL (who is 60) it turns out has a new flame.. a 29 year old. It's not just a fling and they have been dating for some months now (holidays together etc.) I am sooooooo trying to be open minded about it all but i can't help but feel a little bit shocked by it all.

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yeah, i get that 2rebecca, if my x dated an 18 year old i'd thnk god love her.
but my DAD, is supposed to feel paternal about women my age. It would upset me MORE if my Dad dated somebody my age or younger!

That would wreck my poor little head.

2rebecca, it'st not her X. it's her husband's Dad!

I know but the dad's ex ie the OP's husband's mum is said to be "not taking it very well" and the OP said her husband avoided seeing his dad and new partner to "avoid conflict with his mum"

I think the mum here is being unreasonable, it sounds as though she didn't want the relationship to end.

Purpleduck you aren't far off (minus the beard). Pierce Brosnan he ain't.

HerB - I think you have hit the nail on the head. We don't live close to DH's Father but my SIL does and she is finding it really hard to accept that her Father is dating a woman six years younger than her. They had a fairly strict up bringing and according to DH his Father would have hit the roof his sis had brought home a man 30 years her senior.

My SIL is convinced that he is being taken for a ride - he isn't a millionaire but has some spare cash to spend on designer clothes, bags, holidays etc (as he has been doing apparently)

I'd be interested to hear if anyone else has been in the same position and how they coped.

My dad had a 29 year old girlfriend when I was 18 and I really disliked her....especially when she suggested we should go on an 18-30's holiday together....! They married and have since divorced but I did gain a fab half sister who is 20 years younger than me, so it wasn't all bad. My dad trying to dye his hair and wear trendy clothes to look younger was distinctly cringeworthy though, as was hearing the headboard banging on the wall every night!

Oh dear, I have met a few older men who have been financially (and emotionally) wiped out by their younger partner.

Then again I do know a couple with a 25 yr age difference who have been together for nearly 20 years.

Time will tell.