to think my mum should know 9 month old dds name?

[emmymama]

her friend has done the christening cake and my mum had to ring and ask if i wanted grace or gracie.... i said grace (cos its her name) and sge said 'oh, i thought it was gracie' ftr i dont call her that and also what her middle name is (my late grandmas name!)

also aibu to think that my bf babies cake shouldnt have bottles decorations on... especially since i told my mum absolutely definately not to have them put on?

lol, yes your mum should know her name
Also agree about the bottles

She should know the name but I think the bottle thing is overthinking it tbh. No one else cares, it's just a decoration. I got plenty of cards when DD was born with nappies on; proper nappies with pins, not disposables. I don't use real nappies. Should I have been offended?

yanbu,

ds is 2 and still gets called jacky by my mil, its JACK WHATS SO HARD ABOUT THAT!!!

Sorry raw nerve, also id find the bottles a tad irritating especially if youd already expressed your veiws!

YANBU about the name, but I'd let the bottles go - what does that matter, it's only an image?

YANBU.

And the bottles, imvho, are naff.

Can you ask her to put breasts on instead?

Seriously, YANBU about either.

Hah, my Mum has a hard enough time remembering my name. She always calls me by one of my older sister's names. To be fair she gets us all mixed up.

We were going to call our DS3 Henry for a while, but about 2 weeks before he was born it was changed to Harry. Up to a month afterwards my MIL (who lives in the next village)continued to call him Henry, on all his cards, in conversation and present tags. Bet she wouldn't know his middle name either! Peed me off no end, so no YANBU.

But the bottle thing i would let go. Its just a baby image, like Dummies. Mine have never had dummies, but have had cards etc with them on. Wouldn't worry about it...

I think bottle decorations sound awful-whether breastfeeding or not.

I´ve never heard of a Christening cake being decorated like that!

YABU

If your mum genuinely doesn't know the difference, then perhaps you are not being entirely unreasonable, but... gracie is a diminutive of Grace surely? Which would be a typical thing for a grandmother to call her DGS? Certainly my newphews and nieces are all being shortened willy nilly and amusingly, are sometimes being lengthened. It's terms of affection surely? Somewhat irritating I grant you - there are diminutive versions of my name that I don't like - but not a sign of someone forgetting their DGC's name?

Ditto on the bottles - surely it's just one of those things that represent babies like storks or something similar? Kind of like girls tend to be represented with pink flowers while boys have blue cars?

BL but she thought that was bher actual name!!

YANBU.

Of course she should know your daughter´s proper name!

YANBU on either count